With the scribbled Santa Lists in his hand he looked around the store, taking more internal measure of what was not possible this year. His heart sank.
Lights were bright, colors bold, and generally the people moving up and down the aisles seemed cheerful, albeit deliberate, in their considerations. Yet for him, for the first time, he felt inadequate.
He began to think this year will be a measure of his failure; with little money, it would be impossible to fulfill those carefully written wishes.
Filled with an anxiety known to a growing number of people he felt fear. Then a whisper he was previously able to fight away began to creep toward him – Boldly striking the bells of pride with a deafening resonance. If he cannot purchase the *stuff*, he cannot provide for his family, and his value is less.
The Christmas Season brings with it joy, hope and fun. However, beyond the tinsel, bows and shiny things, Christmas can also bring a heightened sense of despair.

Madison Avenue does a great job of making an increasingly product focused society define and measure value from the perspective of a brand new Lexus with a six foot perfectly adorned bow topper.
If such is attainable, you are successful and hold worth. If such is unattainable you are less, perhaps far less.
And it doesn’t take the scale of a Lexus to make a feeling of inadequacy any less impactful. It could be the unattainability of a video console, a pair of sneakers, a gadget all the cool kids own, or even a specific ‘everyone-gotta-have’ T-Shirt.
We all want to give that which a child desires. Often we measure ourselves by the ability to provide that desire; and absent of our ability – we are failing.
As soon as you begin to focus on your inability, you allow the dark whispers, evil whispers who deceitfully enjoy infecting your heart, to define yourself solely on the basis of Pride, Ego and ultimately short-comings.
This is a dangerous season as much as a joyful one. (more…)