Sometimes it isn’t even safe.
I saw a post at Ace of Spades about women who love feminized men. They are calling them babygirl, and apparently both the young women who are attracted to these guys, and the men themselves consider it a compliment.
Here’s a quote I lifted from the Ace post, which I believe originates from his link to the NY Post.
A man who is “babygirl” comes across as sweet, charming, a bit bashful and seemingly in touch with their feminine side, ready to talk about their feelings or carry a purse to brunch at any point.
It’s exactly what women want and men want to become — the antithesis of toxic macho masculinity.
They are presenting it as “mental health.”
First of all, let me say without sarcasm, beware anything presented these days as mental health, and especially consider the sources.
I would like to make some comments which I hope will be shared to young women of dating age. I appeal to these young ladies to stop and consider, to think about what is important.
Not everyone you will date will be someone you want to consider for a long term commitment, or for marriage. That is as it should be. A wise young woman will spend some years learning what type of young man she will be most happy, content, and compatible with, and learning to judge people, especially men, who are trustworthy, loyal, and reliable, and those who are not.
But imagine yourself at the point of seeking a long term commitment leading to marriage. Let’s look only at the personal, most selfish aspects of the potential relationship first. Believe me, they have much wider implications.
No matter what kind of woman you are, your professions, education, race, religion, or politics, if you have the brains God gave a goose and some common sense and self awareness, you want a partner who isn’t high maintenance and doesn’t require undue effort and work.
In other words, you are looking for someone who will give as much as they take. And please note, this is a mutable, changeable, flexible give. There is no static 50/50 in a relationship. Some days it’s close, but other days, it’s all on one side, and then things swing back to a more centered relationship. Ah, and then there are, in committed, long term, stable relationships that build people, families, the world, the weeks, months, and years of one sidedness.
Those are the ups and downs of life, and not to be confused with selfishness or the shallowness of people who won’t commit.
For example, almost four years ago I had a serious fall which left me with a long term injury. Last year I had to have an ankle replacement because of it. These past years have been a trial for me, physically and mentally, and my husband bore a greater load because of it. I see that, appreciate it, and am so grateful for it. And I can honestly say, I’d bet he’s never even had that thought. We don’t have a running tally, a measuring system.
When our kids were young, it was necessary in the job he had and loved that he work and be away from home long, long hours. Sometimes there was travel. That put the burden of the day to day home life, kids, school, cooking, almost all of it, on me during the week.
A lot of men and women I know today measure that stuff rigidly, and boy, it’s important to them, but it was a way we had to live, especially since we needed the money so much. I saw it as a sacrifice on his part, not selfishness.
And so we went, year after year, back and forth, giving, taking, living, loving, sharing.
Back to your dating life. I hope that personal example illustrated my point. If you are just dating and having fun, it’s unlikely that you want to be the one who does all the work, compromising, and giving, even in a casual relationship. A babygirl, by the very definition of the word, needs to be pampered, cared for.
If you are looking for a partner for lifelong commitment, and allow me to say that if you look for a long term partner and don’t expect permanency and everything they have to give, stop there. You have some work to do on yourself. If you’re looking for real commitment, no one wants a loser, a user, a poser, a lightweight.
Let’s break this down into simple word pictures. Life is hard. Some days it throws the kitchen sink and the toilet at you. And then comes the bulldozer while you’re down. You’d better have a partner in those moments, those days, especially if you have kids. One who can stand his ground and push back hard at challenges.
One of the best feelings in the world is going to bed after an awful day and having the man you love, whose strengths see you through hard times, put his arms around you, settle you against his chest, make the world go away for a few precious hours in the shelter, yes, by golly, shelter, of his arms.
He’s stronger than you, bigger than you, harder than you. And that is reassuring, it’s a deep to the bone salve that tells you he won’t ever quit, give in, or whine when things get even harder. No, you won’t think these thoughts, more important, you will feel them.
And let me tell you this also, acknowledge it or not, you need those things. You were created to share those things with him, just as he was created to give them to you.
Throw them aside as toxic masculinity at your own peril.
Cute little harmless “babydoll” men are small fish, not big enough to be nourishing. Smile when you catch one, but throw it back in the pond because he isn’t a keeper. If you value men who overly share their feelings, who look so cute in their skinny jeans, man bun, and with their hollow chested androgynous figures and soft everything, including morals and character, then upon you will come misery, heartbreak, financial ruin quite possibly, and a lonely, lonely walk through a burden filled life with no one to share the load.
You’ll be expected to support him, emotionally always, and financially just about guaranteed during months and years when he’s finding himself, or really mentally ill. Or fired, addicted, cheating with who knows who or what, or just being his selfish, irresponsible babygirl self.
No man worthy of the title would give you a second shot if you came looking for whatever fluff sticks together such a missed the mark in every way male as this babydoll creature, nor should he.
Ladies, if you’re looking for merely pretty, for an entertaining toy, then go for it. Indulge yourself and go into it knowing the cost. Because really, you’re trying to combine two very different things. You need a best girlfriend, or several of them. That’s where you can make another type of deep emotional connection, share your fun times, your secrets, your hopes, and learn about life, guys, makeup, clothes, and yes, sex.
But if you have plans and dreams that involve marriage, babies, building a good, strong, happy, rock solid life, you’d better also look for a real man to build the foundation with. Anything less is your immaturity combined with imagination, fairy dust, and being so insecure that trooping along with the parade is more important to you than your own future.
Wanting a man secure in his own wonderful masculinity to share your life with does not make you less than him, weaker than him, though your own incredible, wonderful strengths are different than his. It doesn’t make you needy, selfish, immature, or, if you must, not a feminist or a modern woman.
It makes you a woman who knows her own mind and her own worth and demands her equal, and her due.
Opposite sex DNA has been injected into children & babies en mass for 90 years now… I think it’s having an effect, by the looks of things – here is the history/timeline
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“I experimented with vaccines in animals (rats, cats, and rabbits), and found that the **mutations compounded with each succeeding inoculated generation.** In the second generation, with all three types of animals, mutations started as slight deformations of an ear, or eye, or jowl: or a shortened limb, or scoliosis. Glandular ((hormonal)) malfunctions were prominent. In some animals, temperaments became unruly. In the sixth and seventh generations, mutations were severe: loss of glands, organs, limbs, features, motor and neural functions: brutal suicidal and homicidal tendencies, and impotence resulting in extinction….
… In my experience, of all the pharmaceuticals that are accepted as miracles, vaccines are the most dangerous because the side effects are most often subtle, or attributed to another problem, or ignored. Theses side effects become obvious after the third and fourth generations. That is when the mutations start to become exaggerated and pitiful. With humans this will probably be apparent by the year 2015.”
~Dr. Aajonus Vonderplanitz
Yet the victims are held at fault.
This is a symptom, not the illness.
The illness is the near total disconnect from the Creator, God Almighty, Giver of Life.
Learn King Solomon’s wisdom in סֵפֶר קֹהֶלֶת, the Book of Kohelet (known to the nations as Ecclesiastes).
One of my favorite quotes:
“The absence of the belief in God is not the belief in nothing, it’s the belief in anything. ”
G. K. Chesterton
Less God=More Hate
This is the kinda guy in 20 years will be thinking what the heck happened to my life!
YA, its all nice fun and games till life’s realities come a calling. We know the fun is about to end.
“This kinda guy” doesn’t care. They’re a dime a dozen…because they can be.
Unfortunately, I don’t think the young girls/young women that Menagerie is appealing to are going to be reading this.
Maybe some of their parents or grandparents will. Maybe it will spark a boot in their ass to get more involved.
It’s a cultural sort of thing, and in my opinion it’s also a matter of IQ. Any girl who is attracted to these sorts of guys already has problems. It’s today’s version of yesterday’s “bad boy.”
I remember the first hippies I saw in real life, patchouli oil smelly ragamuffins holes in their jeans covered by peace symbol and make love not war, they smelled awful.
I now look at those same people still high on drugs. And as communist as ever.
Boy George was a babygirl with the same hat 40 years ago.
He went to prison, gained some weight, and wears bigger hats now.
Ironically, he said in an interview he was attracted to macho men, like all women.
So was David Bowie way before both………
https://heartiste.org/2018/06/29/when-the-sexual-polarity-reverses/
The phenomenon you bring up is referred to as sexual polarity or in this case, reverse sexual polarity. The thing to remember is that it is always better to have masculine men and feminine women.
“it is always better to have masculine men and feminine women.”
Yes, that is the way God created us.
Yes, that is the purpose of life, for men and women to complement each other and “woo” each other in the distinct ways they were made. Then comes real communication, quickly followed by respect for each other (if that is not there, it is a NO-GO – get out). The real communication develops into a friendship, and affection for the other party. Hormones are volatile during adolescence and into the teen years. It’s been that way forever. Some may end up with hormones “tipping” slightly other to what we expected. But, as is often the case, those hormones sort themselves out during the teen years and stabilize by the end of the teen years. That is the norm.
Are You Asexual Or On Antidepressants?
You deserve to know if your sexual identity is a side-effect
https://www.freyaindia.co.uk/p/are-you-asexual-or-on-antidepressants
Best line ever–Throw it back in the pond, it’s not a keeper–
Yes, and these slimy creatures wriggled out of the pond and crawled into Washington DC. They’ve multiplied and dug in. Now we have a massive swamp filled with these creatures.
They’ve assumed human form. 🧟🧟♀️🧟♂️
“Ladies, if you’re looking for merely pretty, for an entertaining toy, then go for it. Indulge yourself and go into it knowing the cost.”
Yup……get yourself a toy poodle……
Great advice, Sundance.
And squirts, like the one pictured, were run out of our school yards, locker rooms, and athletic camps. It may have been cruel and unfair but it was a categorical imperative for the rigor of our species. … But that was decades ago.
Menagerie created this Post….not SD.
As a man of five children and husband of 34 years, to one and only one wife, you nailed it with this one statement.
“One of the best feelings in the world is going to bed after an awful day and having the man you love, whose strengths see you through hard times, put his arms around you, settle you against his chest, make the world go away for a few precious hours in the shelter, yes, by golly, shelter, of his arms.”
Genesis 2:18
“The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Suitable, God, as always did much more than suitable.
What more can any man ask for, but a good woman?
They are few and far between these days. But hey, we have Zir, Them, They, He-she-it and all other stupid meaningless pronouns to make them believe they are unicorns.
Completely agree – this was my favorite passage and so very true. I am lucky to have that caliber of man. We started out as two skinny, naive kids in love some 45 years ago, and we are blessed to be able to shelter in one another’s arms to this day.
“Not Alone” -Patty Griffin
Cuts to the heart of the matter
Killed me.
God is good.
Marriage, with all it entails, is a gift.
I have never heard of a “baby girl” category of manhood.
I have heard of femboys, metrosexuals, and soybois.
This is terribly unfortunate.
Thank Heavens I don’t have children to assist in navigating the various paths which lead through such perversions and oddities to a life of traditional normalcy in which men and women serve their God-given gender roles.
I take my job to protect and serve my wife very seriously and to not be a lothario looking for a nurse and a purse.
Thanks for your insights, Menagerie.
And thank you, ML, for being the obviously alpha male you are. We need many more of you to make this country stronger and happier. God bless you.
I’m late to the Treehouse today.
Menagerie, this post does not surprise me because it’s you – and you have been consistently candid with your views on marital relationships. Views that I and my wife of 51.5 years also hold.
Thanks again for standing up for men who are real God-loving men and advocating for women to be real God-loving women. The marriage of one man to one woman is truly the God-intended & designed Order for His humanity.
Contemporary culture has definitely messed up several generations’ concept of that Holy Sacrament, starting with my own Boomer generation who were unceasingly bombarded with messages of “free love” (inconsequential premarital or extramarital sex), radical feminism, “if it feels good, do it” (pro-drugs) propaganda from the mid-’60s forward.
It s no mystery why Gen Z is so thoroughly confused about identity. The Communist Left has been relentless in its deliberate attacks on identity and what constitutes “normal” or “desirable” attitudes about self-identity and towards others. This attack vector is one of their main weapons for destroying faith-based western culture and society in order to make it vulnerable to their rule and (delusions of) supreme authority.
Amen GB sickening culture freaks
The Blood is enough.
We’ve reached to bottom of the trough.
Wake up calls have gone out.
Congratulations on 50+ years!!!
Get ready to Father a bunch of spiritual orphans.
They will desperately need what you and your wife carry.
I’m so glad I grew up in the late 70s. Last generation to never have seen a computer as a child. When we grew up we knew if we wanted to have anything we had to work for it. If you got married (I was married at 20) you knew you were going to have to support you and your wife and instead of crying about how hard it was, you just did it because that was what you knew to do. I remember I was working maintenance at a golf course making 4.25 an hour and I was ecstatic when I saw my check after working 86 hours one week. I remember the first time my check broke the 200.00 mark, what a feeling! The point I’m trying to make is the number of men who have the “manhood” gene are rapidly declining and we are in real trouble.
This I can relate to. 47 years this summer and she’s still a honey.
Holy cats Menagerie! What a good and timely post. I have granddaughters that I am constantly telling about the real world and the wolves within who will lead them to a dead end. Thank you for verbalizing this weird phenomenon so well. We need real men. Strong men. Worthy men.
Women’s lib has see destroyed much in our society. As a high schooler in the 70’s we were taught if it feels good, do it.
God created men and women to complement each other, not compete with each other.
“Women’s Lib” was the beginning of the downfall of the the family structure. It was evil and is still evil.
Oops sorry I scrolled and hit the flag 🙁
Agree with your comment.
Wish my Mom or Dad would’ve said those things to me. Would’ve saved me much heartache
I think Captain Tamaichi Hara was right, bring back arranged marriages.
In my day, a girl loved guys with hairy chests, 6 pack abs and muscle cars. Now it seems they like a guy who can advise them on lipstick color and identify with their girly issues. This is really all about the demasuclization of society. Color me as a hairy chest.
Physical attributes do affect the choices of each sex. That said, a real relationship will develop once the 2 people involved form a true friendship and respect for each other, regardless of chest hair, etc.
It has always been my belief that any chest hair should be on the man
No wonder I’ve been watching old movies starring such masculine men as John Wayne, Robert Mitchem, Burt Lancaster, Clark Gable, Spencer Tracy, etc. I grew up believing strong men gravitate to strong women – no competition but each lend strength to one another as they grow together.
I was attempting to strike up a romantic relationship with an attractive woman after she expressed interest, and we did have a mutual attraction initially
However it turned out that I was a sensible American conservative while she was a Euro-Canadian commie
I first noticed things going south when she was explaining modern feminist concepts to me, like so-called “toxic masculinity” and “testosterone poisoning”, in which male fetuses are developing quite acceptably in the womb until a pulse of testosterone “poisons their brains”
Yeah, didn’t work out
Consider yourself fortunate that the so-called relationship ended.
That would be a “to the first traffic light date.” Ask her nicely to exit the vehicle… lol
All kidding aside, give some thought to biker women. They all appreciate a man’s man and they are usually big on contributing to a relationship without keeping a close score. If you ride motorcycles you might find this easier?
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I do not see how sweet and charming and masculinity are mutually exclusive.
Is the point of the article to say masculine men are then chunky, abrasive antisocial douche’s?
(Because if they ARE anything else they are metrosexual, baby girl, whatever)
And that women then should love them because the masculine trait tops all.
And despite all this women should accept these abrasive traits for the fact of shelter?
Shrugs. I think it’s a strange article really with a lot of sweeping categorization and generalization; probably fit for consumption to be forgotten as soon as its read.
(Then again I do not read glossy magazines – so what do I know :D)
I am saying nothing about the whole dainty purse thing. What the?
What about a briefcase or a duffel bag.
And why is the article lumping sh*t fashion style with character traits. Confusing.
Lol. The girly man look.
Deuteronomy 22:5
“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment; for all who do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.
That verse is instruction on how to live a good satisfying life. It obviously goes well beyond just what clothes a man or a woman wears. It describes the natural roles and to go against nature should be a SELF EVIDENT error!
I’d really like to know where being a man got mixed up into being a cave man or being a woman is confused with being a simp and a slave.
Real men are strong for a reason and that reason is their wife and family. Real women are strong for a reason and that reason is their husband and family. Their strengths are a bit different and are Complimentary.
Bottom line? God doesn’t make mistakes…period, end of story.
Freestyle against nature and God and there are costs now and costs later.
Atouk alunda Lana
Bless your heart!
Zing!
To each, his/her own preference. Bless your heart.
That is a man purse
“Bring back the draft”, he thundered.
https://youtube.com/shorts/-Vyh2rf96Ec?si=R-kREhSC1k_TsJFd
The character in the cover picture:
His hat is tilted wrong. If you need guidance on this, than watch ” Murphy’s Romance” with James Garner and Sally Field.
His denim jacket should be given to someone smaller, a few sizes smaller, and become the yard work jacket for the new owner. If our good buddy here wore a nice DJ, you need a black one and a blue one, that fit him than he wouldn’t need the leather bag. I’m guessing the leather bag is supposed to be a “purse” (?) to make the point of the article? Maybe it’s a camera bag or laptop or both, bag?
His white sneakers and white shirt are very nice. His pants fit nicely and the print would match up with a nice DJ, black or blue.
I am put off by sunglass wearing if it’s for show only. I like being able to look someone in the eyes.
Murphy’s Romance is one of my all-time favorite movies!
Ditto! Carole King played one of “Murphy’s” employees.
And when these sick narcissistic freaks are no longer babied they turn violent. I have seen it so many times.
The last thing a young lady needs is a boyfriend who is likely to run off with her brother.
How right you are UncleGrumpy.
I once knew an immoral & married coworker who had a girlfriend on the side. The girlfriend ditched him for another girl. It became common knowledge at work.
It demolished the guy, smashed him to a pulp.
None of his coworkers could work up any degree of sympathy for him
If the married coworker’s girlfriend had run off with another man instead of a woman, would he have gotten sympathy from those same coworkers?
Doubt it, it was an obnoxious type
So funny…chuckle, chuckle.
Thank you Menagerie for this post. As I read through comments, I noticed how “words” have been created by/professionals/others to validate/excuse, these off the wall behaviors that r flat out lies. Reminds me of the ongoing attempted use of portraying mis, dis, mal, information as real words. As has been pointed out often, information is either true or a lie. I am seeing the same pattern at play in this issue as well as in other issues. This post has breathed a hug, needed, breath of freh air into this subject.
When “Toxic masculinity” is medicine.
Thank you for writing and sharing this.
A man being called a babygirl is a supreme insult, not a compliment. They can twist it any way they want, but they are demeaning the so called “man” and he is too weak and stupid to see it.
The International Brotherhood of Eunuchs is claiming “Babygirl” is ageist.
Wonderful postMenagerie! Although I do really believe my 17-year-old granddaughter who lives a good Christian life and who works very hard in school and in her jobs has her priorities straight and has a great life planned, I forwarded this article to her and her parents. You never know where your wisdom will land and save someone’s life – literally. Thank you again for putting your thoughts and experiences into words so eloquently. God bless you and God bless CTH!
True Story: You’re gonna love it! Reliable third source information to me. I have some obnoxious leftist ‘friends’ who are convinced they know how the world should work. They decided that they were going to do DNA testing to find out more about their each of their backgrounds. The female half found out her background was pretty much what her relatives, on both sides of the family, related to her. The male half had a different experience. The results of his DNA testing showed that he had some siblings that he didn’t know about.
As the information started rolling in, the number grew exponentially! Last I heard, on the QT from another relative, was that he had 51 siblings and the number was growing. I was told he confronted his mother and father. They admitted that he was a product of artificial insemination. As it turns out someone “at the clinic” was a donor for many procedures. He apparently felt that his superior role as a human being and his intellect should be replicated as much as possible for the good of society. That’s the long and the short of this story. I can only tell you that these people (males) seem to be a bit on the effeminate side??
My suggestion to them was that, to plan for a large family reunion in the not too distant future, they should consider renting Yankee Stadium for a day, complete with beer and hot dog vendors. Haven’t heard back.
I think there is a documentary or movie about this very thing. Maybe in Indiana?
Thanks, I’ll try to find it or possibly some information on this topic. I kinda remember some many years ago there was a national scandal regarding artificial insemination and this kind of chicanery. It’s seems to be coming home to roost now….
If my Gen Z son came home dressed like a feminine version of himself; I would lock him in his childhood bedroom and have an intervention.
Great advice and insights.
Mental health sharing is popular with GenZ and aging millennials. It generates lots of revenue for pharma media, social therapists, consumer activism, lifestyle branding…
Stop Opening Up About Your Mental Health Online
Instagram being #HereForYou? Hahaha, please
https://www.freyaindia.co.uk/p/stop-opening-up-about-your-mental
The best thing about this thread is reading about how many of us here at the Treehouse have been married for a long time. My wife and I are going on 45 years.
Yes we need to return to a nation of burly men but may I add from personal experience we need strong women too. Ones that will stand behind and sometimes in front of their men with teeth bared against the world and willing to fight! Let me explain 20 plus years ago in an accident of my own fault our youngest son was killed. The hardest part was telling his 6 year old brother that his best friend was gone. If not for a wife that held ME and supported me emotionally I’d be dead of suicide long ago. There are still nights that I’ll wake up crying and she puts her arm around me and holds me tight and says let it out. Many women I believe would have walk out long ago, GOD BLESS MY WIFE!
God Bless YOU!
I second Boogy. God Bless You, indeed! Isn’t it amazing how a good life-long partner can mend your broken pieces, even when you think that it’s not at all possible?? God loves us, and a lot of times it’s the actions of others that proves that. I’m glad that you have someone so meaningful, caring, and kind to love you through your darkest of days.
Societal hardship stops the wimpy male fad. Same crap happened elsewhere in time to late stage empires.
What’s down there is who I am up there.
I have six granddaughters. I think that I am going to print copies of this post and pass them out to all of them. Thanks, Menagerie.
Please excuse if this repeats 400 other commentators, but look for a spouse who is religious, one who PRACTICES their faith, and just doesn’t “talk” it. And one who adheres to the same denomination as you. Maybe before now, like I noticed when in rural school in the 70s, most everyone, Protestant or Catholic, had very similar “faith parameters”. More or less. That’s not REMOTELY true now. You simply have to practice the strickest discrimination. The strickest. After a bit of practice, it becomes second nature.
Pray humbly, but be “as wise as serpents”.
A very thoughtful article sharing years of wisdom. It should be shared with younger women starting in middle school.
Men are men, but not all are equal in manliness. Manliness isn’t toxic, it’s God’s gift to his creation.
The world should fear toxic feminists. I wish I could share this article with Women’s Studies majors and watch their heads explode.
I read an article not too long ago which talked about these shifts in our culture. I recall mention of the “gynocentric matriarchy” our culture has become. This shift has empowered women but emasculated our men. We need to stand our ground and hold on to God’s intended design. That will take courage and devotion to God’s holy standards. Hopefully, the pendulum will swing back at some point.
Women are not truly empowered if men are emasculated.
Not a girly man, but I’ve been rejected by women over and over to the point I’ve given up. I’m not going to sit here and list the positive qualities I possess because there’s no point in being positive anymore. People are terrible. Being alone sucks.
I am not on the prowl, being married, but I find that many women respond to simple conversation/questions. In a grocery store ask about something they just put in their cart. Observe, and be relevant. I’m the type who will start a conversation with total strangers because I actually enjoy conversation, and people pick up on that. I would be trying to decide which baloney to buy and if someone steps in to my “zone”, I will ask them if they have ever tried this or that. They often say no but then I would ask, “well, what do you like?” Inevitably I find out something about where they grew up, or family, or whatever. I tell my wife I just met someone that ……………. and she just shakes her head wondering why I engage with people like that.
Funny thing during my time as tax assessor senior ladies trusted me after a bit of small talk about their house and would invite me in without really being skeptical. Younger women were more suspicious but with more conversation they too eventually became friendly. Men were the worst. Rarely were they willing to talk. I would even tell the grandmas that they don’t know me and should be more suspicious. Some would then pooh pooh that and offer me some cookies they just made.
Human nature is fascinating. Be curious about people and make it about them not you.
I’m single too. First off … if you’re not being rejected, you’re not trying. Many, many people who I respect swear BY online dating. I have found it to be the “Land of Liars”. Many old timers tell me that when you stop looking, you’ll find someone. That never consoled me, either.
Do you have any friends or family members who can tell you ANYTHING? A good friend or family member who feels free to speak bluntly might give you feedback you need to hear.
Most decent size towns have at least one church that will sponsor “Divorce Care”. Divorce Care is a non denominational Christian support group for divorced people. You buy a work book and attend a weekly 2 hour meeting. The first hour is spent watching a video about the divorce experience, then a short break, then a discussion with the facilitator and the men and women present. They ask you NOT to bring children. Many of us went afterwards to a local eatery to enjoy more discussion and dessert.
It became routine for most of us to gather on the weekends where children could be present. The Divorce Care facilitator instructed us to not date anyone in the group. Maybe that meant that those who dated should attend separate Divorce Care meetings? Anyways, that rule was pretty much ignored. People who attended ran the gamut from going through divorce at the time to being divorced 10 years before.
I have thought about his comment a lot, and prayed for him. With nothing but good intentions, I second your advice to seek constructive criticism.
Sir, if you have someone who would be willing to honestly and objectively offer you opinions, humble yourself and listen. How we perceive our own interactions with people, how we speak, listen, and yes, dress, our mannerisms, they are nothing like we think.
I am very blunt and very honest. It borders on unkindness at times, which I do not intend. My family reminds me of this, and I desperately need that reminder. I don’t like to be treated unkindly, and I don’t want to treat others that we. We need give and take feedback.
Also good advice in these last two comments from Boogy and minnesotamike55. Find ways to interact with people, and not just in places and ways that help you look for a relationship.
First, it will improve your people skills. Second, people know people, one thing leads to another, and you never know when you’ll get an introduction.
Lost my manly man in Afghanistan.
Married someone who acted like a man, but was an effeminate, pathological narcissistic babygirl.
The divorce and subsequent court actions because he won’t let go has cost a million dollars, to say nothing of the damage done to my and my children’s mental and physical health.
Ladies, choosing the wrong mate reaps lifelong consequences. Please, please, please know what you want and make sure you aren’t ignoring the red flags. Seek counsel from others, rationalize your decisions, and do the best you can to choose someone you won’t bitterly regret.
Clearly a woman who has no problem defining what a woman is.
I disagree. Ladies should never date a man she would not consider marrying. Or better put, marriage material.
Menagerie,
Great post! Did you know that the use of hormonal birth control can cause a preference for more “sensitive” men?
They must have changed it from the original then.
While he wasn’t called “babydoll,” I remember back in the 70s how actor Alan Alda was THE example of what men should be and what Menagerie is talking about here. That character was reaffirmed in “MASH,” “Same Time Next Year,” and other TV and movie escapades. This is a good column I’m saving to possibly give to a granddaughter, since I only had a son.
By the way, our military has become joke because of this kind of thing. The woke agenda has loaded the military with unqualified males and females, LBGQ, and all manner of people who have no business anywhere near serious military. All branches of the service are having trouble recruiting. It’s commonly known that personnel are subjected to WOKE training sessions and various leftist social teachings. No real red blooded American male will have anything to do with it. The current political agenda has eviscerated our military of competent and mission driven officers and enlisted personnel. Col. Douglas Macgregor has spoken to this issue on numerous occasions. ALL branches of the service have been greatly reduced in combat readiness and are certainly not ready for a situation as we are seeing Ukraine. This weakness is being exposed all around the world. Ask the Houthis in Yemen…..
All done on purpose as we’ve sorrowfully learned.
I just heard Col.Larry Wilkerson, a 31 year Army veteran, recommend that no one join the military. He basically said the current military leadership is bankrupt and that the military is broken.
Interesting interview:
In other words he is a homosexual or bisexual.
It’s lent. Read Matthew. Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy. None of you know anything about this particular kid. Have mercy say a prayer and Sundance focus on Trump winning. Not an article worth front paging.
Nick on Babygirls
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/-Vyh2rf96Ec
never met anyone like this nor ever heard the term babygirl
I’ve met a few but in my time and they had women friends but none of the women, at that time, would have ever in a million years considered them marriage material. That to me is the horrible change we’ve seen with the denigration of manly men by the left and women’s movement. It’s the women who are rejecting manly men but only from what I’ve seen, among young women. They will be sadly disappointed for going along with a trend instead of their natural feelings. It’s also about the the war on our minds to totally accept gays no matter how destructive their practice is to themselves and society.
I noticed one comment thought the dress of the young man didn’t really explain who he was, but it did. How any of us dress shows what we think of ourselves and how we want society to view us. The left hasn’t managed to brainwash all of us into thinking it that doesn’t matter anymore.
I agree with you about the dress reflecting who you are. If I see underage girls in revealing clothes, I judge their parents. When I see adults in inappropriate attire, I judge them. When I see older women dressing in youthful, ridiculous styles with crazy makeup and hair, I kind of feel sorry for them. A few years ago I used to see a lot of women in their 50s and 60s with pink or green streaks in their hair. Harmless, certainly a personal preference, but it seems silly to me, and reaching for…what?
We all judge people by outward appearance, it’s one of the few clues we have. Sometimes, more often than not in a reasonably socially adjusted person, that judgement is accurate, I think.