Sometimes it isn’t even safe.
I saw a post at Ace of Spades about women who love feminized men. They are calling them babygirl, and apparently both the young women who are attracted to these guys, and the men themselves consider it a compliment.
Here’s a quote I lifted from the Ace post, which I believe originates from his link to the NY Post.
A man who is “babygirl” comes across as sweet, charming, a bit bashful and seemingly in touch with their feminine side, ready to talk about their feelings or carry a purse to brunch at any point.
It’s exactly what women want and men want to become — the antithesis of toxic macho masculinity.
They are presenting it as “mental health.”
First of all, let me say without sarcasm, beware anything presented these days as mental health, and especially consider the sources.
I would like to make some comments which I hope will be shared to young women of dating age. I appeal to these young ladies to stop and consider, to think about what is important.
Not everyone you will date will be someone you want to consider for a long term commitment, or for marriage. That is as it should be. A wise young woman will spend some years learning what type of young man she will be most happy, content, and compatible with, and learning to judge people, especially men, who are trustworthy, loyal, and reliable, and those who are not.
But imagine yourself at the point of seeking a long term commitment leading to marriage. Let’s look only at the personal, most selfish aspects of the potential relationship first. Believe me, they have much wider implications.
No matter what kind of woman you are, your professions, education, race, religion, or politics, if you have the brains God gave a goose and some common sense and self awareness, you want a partner who isn’t high maintenance and doesn’t require undue effort and work.
In other words, you are looking for someone who will give as much as they take. And please note, this is a mutable, changeable, flexible give. There is no static 50/50 in a relationship. Some days it’s close, but other days, it’s all on one side, and then things swing back to a more centered relationship. Ah, and then there are, in committed, long term, stable relationships that build people, families, the world, the weeks, months, and years of one sidedness.
Those are the ups and downs of life, and not to be confused with selfishness or the shallowness of people who won’t commit.
For example, almost four years ago I had a serious fall which left me with a long term injury. Last year I had to have an ankle replacement because of it. These past years have been a trial for me, physically and mentally, and my husband bore a greater load because of it. I see that, appreciate it, and am so grateful for it. And I can honestly say, I’d bet he’s never even had that thought. We don’t have a running tally, a measuring system.
When our kids were young, it was necessary in the job he had and loved that he work and be away from home long, long hours. Sometimes there was travel. That put the burden of the day to day home life, kids, school, cooking, almost all of it, on me during the week.
A lot of men and women I know today measure that stuff rigidly, and boy, it’s important to them, but it was a way we had to live, especially since we needed the money so much. I saw it as a sacrifice on his part, not selfishness.
And so we went, year after year, back and forth, giving, taking, living, loving, sharing.
Back to your dating life. I hope that personal example illustrated my point. If you are just dating and having fun, it’s unlikely that you want to be the one who does all the work, compromising, and giving, even in a casual relationship. A babygirl, by the very definition of the word, needs to be pampered, cared for.
If you are looking for a partner for lifelong commitment, and allow me to say that if you look for a long term partner and don’t expect permanency and everything they have to give, stop there. You have some work to do on yourself. If you’re looking for real commitment, no one wants a loser, a user, a poser, a lightweight.
Let’s break this down into simple word pictures. Life is hard. Some days it throws the kitchen sink and the toilet at you. And then comes the bulldozer while you’re down. You’d better have a partner in those moments, those days, especially if you have kids. One who can stand his ground and push back hard at challenges.
One of the best feelings in the world is going to bed after an awful day and having the man you love, whose strengths see you through hard times, put his arms around you, settle you against his chest, make the world go away for a few precious hours in the shelter, yes, by golly, shelter, of his arms.
He’s stronger than you, bigger than you, harder than you. And that is reassuring, it’s a deep to the bone salve that tells you he won’t ever quit, give in, or whine when things get even harder. No, you won’t think these thoughts, more important, you will feel them.
And let me tell you this also, acknowledge it or not, you need those things. You were created to share those things with him, just as he was created to give them to you.
Throw them aside as toxic masculinity at your own peril.
Cute little harmless “babydoll” men are small fish, not big enough to be nourishing. Smile when you catch one, but throw it back in the pond because he isn’t a keeper. If you value men who overly share their feelings, who look so cute in their skinny jeans, man bun, and with their hollow chested androgynous figures and soft everything, including morals and character, then upon you will come misery, heartbreak, financial ruin quite possibly, and a lonely, lonely walk through a burden filled life with no one to share the load.
You’ll be expected to support him, emotionally always, and financially just about guaranteed during months and years when he’s finding himself, or really mentally ill. Or fired, addicted, cheating with who knows who or what, or just being his selfish, irresponsible babygirl self.
No man worthy of the title would give you a second shot if you came looking for whatever fluff sticks together such a missed the mark in every way male as this babydoll creature, nor should he.
Ladies, if you’re looking for merely pretty, for an entertaining toy, then go for it. Indulge yourself and go into it knowing the cost. Because really, you’re trying to combine two very different things. You need a best girlfriend, or several of them. That’s where you can make another type of deep emotional connection, share your fun times, your secrets, your hopes, and learn about life, guys, makeup, clothes, and yes, sex.
But if you have plans and dreams that involve marriage, babies, building a good, strong, happy, rock solid life, you’d better also look for a real man to build the foundation with. Anything less is your immaturity combined with imagination, fairy dust, and being so insecure that trooping along with the parade is more important to you than your own future.
Wanting a man secure in his own wonderful masculinity to share your life with does not make you less than him, weaker than him, though your own incredible, wonderful strengths are different than his. It doesn’t make you needy, selfish, immature, or, if you must, not a feminist or a modern woman.
It makes you a woman who knows her own mind and her own worth and demands her equal, and her due.
Was it Rush who used to satirize Obama’s pajama boy? Thank you SD for putting a knife in that straw dog one more time.
Schwarzenegger called them girly men.
He’s also a clown.
A Nazified RINO clown.
Opportunist! Played the game better than most.
Forget the source is the tag accurate?
I would say yes.
Agreed. But he was also right.
The author of the post is Menagarie not Sundance.
Thank you Menagerie for filling the role of a biblical woman.
Those girly men should hear this same instruction:
And you, O desolate one, what will you do?
Although you dress in scarlet,
Although you decorate yourself with ornaments of gold,
Although you enlarge your eyes with paint,
In vain you make yourself beautiful.
Your lovers despise you;
They seek your life.
Source: https://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Adornment,-Of-Woman
Please help me folks, where’s that scripture on dating?
This world is evil, follow any path to destruction it offers.
Imagine if you followed its teachings, the Bible, success would be next. Marriage is a contract with you, the spouse, God, emphasizing on God. In that all will be well.
I saw my wife and knew, dated many only to have satan use that to try to tear apart my marriage. Follow these issues closely in the Bible.
“Not Found #404”. Huh, perhaps Google doesn’t want to be called the “Desolate One”.
Jeremiah 4:30 is where these verses are found.
Sorry it took so long to respond. Busy day
Coming up on our 40th anniversary. My second wife. The best woman on the planet and my best friend.
You are correct on all of what you wrote.
I would present my two Gen M boys as examples of total male confusion and relations with the current women but, instead, present the Back Street Boys.
You could see it starting back then. Scorecard relationships.
China, Japan, and Korea hold a special place in their heart for the USA’s Communist Instigation a$$hats (CIA) and their feminizing of men.
But that is what weak men do.
Maybe that is why CCP and their Tik Tok target the USA youth in retaliation?
Either way, it is not one sided, but they always target the children and impressionable in their evil plans and death cults of tyranny.
Something puzzling to the Mrs. and I…
Separate bank accounts. Venmo ing back and forth for meals, diapers – ordinary common expenses.
We just can’t put an answer to it.
I don’t run that program myself, but I can somewhat understand it. Thirty plus years of gender equality being taught in schools – splitting finances 50/50 is part of a logical outcome. If a woman wants a so-called equal partner, there’s part of the equation.
Just more undermining of the singular family as paramount.
Is that why the Marxists, er Feminists, still claim that debunked 76 cents on the dollar?
So they don’t have to put in their “fair share” of work.
The only thing they share is a bed. You know the outcome of that.
My daughter and her husband both work full time and have separate
Checking Accounts. I taught my daughter to be responsible with her money. But her husband is horrible with his money. He’s always broke. Separate checking accounts works for them. Otherwise he would be spending all the money that she makes. They do have a joint savings account that they both contribute to for expenses other than the monthly bills.
When I was married, we had a joint checking account. I was very good with money and he was awful with money. We argued about it all the time. He took off one day and cleaned out our joint checking account. I sure wish I had a separate account!
Very well said! The herculean effort of the last 50 years to confuse women and men about masculinity is an obvious concerted and well funded effort. I have been working with men as a psychotherapist for many years and have created a series of posts and videos that look clearly at masculinity from a research perspective (not the liberal globalist perspective) and it is a very different view. Very much aligned with the words in this article. You can find it here: https://menaregood.substack.com/s/understanding-men Be sure to start at #1 and work your way up. The bottom line is men are good.
Look at the schools. They treat boys behaving like boys as “broken girls.”
The modern classroom is made for girls. Classics education is intentionally different.
Yes, for example in Latin class virtue was taught as a sub-text.
They changed schools and teaching to cater to girls and the boys are drugged up and tossed aside as waste and future rapists.
All those inspirational posters became “GIRL POWER” inspirations. No males allowed to be subjected to a possibility of any future.
Marxism in the classroom, in the courts, in the very fabric of getting a job to survive.
All by design and all created to fail and cause the most death, destruction, and mass confusion (THE EXACT SAME THING THEY DO WHILE TORTURING PEOPLE!!!) at the same time for the purpose of causing the most harm to society.
All so they can swoop in and steal what scraps are left.
And neuter boys with meds
They drug the boy right out of them and they come back with rifles.
Indeed! Boys and schools iss an important topic. I did a series of vids on this a while back. Here’s one on Boys and Schools titled Shaming Boys While Boring Them to Death
The left has ruined schools for both boys and girls by using false stats, only telling one side of the story, and faking how the system is hurtful to girls. We have been duped by these thugs.
The return of the Metro Sexual!
Indeed!
I was going to post basically the same thing – but decided to look first if anyone else had used that old term.
The MetroSexual is back (perhaps with new marketing).
https://www.wordnik.com/words/metrosexual
Barf bag. Next, they’ll bring back “Members Only” jackets.
Oh gosh, I have never heard of this, or the behavior.
I suppose I am glad I do not get out much.
This is sick sad and weird. Wow,
Now let’s think about these guys in about 40 years from now….🤨🧐😆
This Western anti-masculinity, approving of feminine men, and celebrating gay men fashion started back in the 1990s with some of it being good (better hair cuts for men, better selection of clothing for men who did not wear just suits nor just jeans, better all-over hair grooming) and much of it being bad.
Rather than just teach men who were interested in elevating his fashion/grooming game to find a good, kind woman it turned into changing men into effeminate boys who come across as someone who couldn’t do anything heroic other than call the police.
I imagine that most of the world looks at many of our baby girl men and laughs. We no longer look like a country full of men. We have girly men and transgender men that are being celebrated.
Great advice
These pitiful men have been around for awhile. Back in the day, we called them “puer aeternus.” I remember a friend who was attracted to such – It didn’t end well…
A real life ” girly man”!
If you want to get an idea of what a girly-man, feminized world is like, look no further than those awful Jardiance TV ads, where women are large and in charge. Just thinking of those ads makes me and Mrs. Boss want to puke.
Women are being socially manipulated in the worst ways. It’s absolutely horrifying to watch if only because I understand how it happens, why it’s happening and who’s making it happen. This is how they break the people away from God and from the natural order of things and by doing so, they destroy the family and create dependency on new “thought leaders” because mothers and fathers are now distanced from their children.
We have been under DECADES of psychological warfare and TORTURE to break US.
By design.
They did it in USSR and across the Communist landscape creating their dystopia and filling it with PSCHOPATHS.
They KNOW and did so according to their plans of death and destruction.
You will always know the tree by the fruit it bears.
Can be traced back to “the Flappers” movement for certain. Before the “information age” of instant communications and transactions, the world saw “The Great Depression” occur around the world all at once. How that could happen TODAY is far more plausible than how it could have happened back then…. “naturally” I mean… you know, without a movement or a plan to make that happen.
Venezuelan hoards are gonna love babygirls.
Saw a clip from Dave Ramsey the other day. A lady called in and had a question about her finances and how to get them in order, foreseeing a divorce on the horizon. Later in the conversation it came out that the reason her marriage was taking a turn for the worst was because her active duty military husband was preparing to “become a woman.”
Things like this happened before the fall of Rome as well.
They had call-in shows in Rome?
(I know what you mean… the insane social ‘experimentation’ and extravagance and hedonism… the lack of consideration for the results of their feeding stupid impulses)
A civilization’s height and stability depend on how well they treat its women. This should be a no-brainer. Civilizations which are overly male dominated are overly violent. Islamic cultures come to mind. To regard women is to place feminine virtues above brute force, which is then relegated to the bottom of the social hierarchy. Islam seems incapable of absorbing this fact. The more civilized the nation is, the better it treats its women. This is an invariable and iron-clad rule.
https://www.americanthinker.com/articles/2015/02/why_nations_succeed_and_fail.html
Funny.
I am amazed at all those Amazonian and women societies that have not only held their ground but expanded upon the women’s rights and “Height” of “Civilization” in the face of men the world over. /s
“A man must know his limitations.” Dirty Harry Callahan aka Clint Eastwood in the Dirty Harry series.
And then I look at the lawfare and all those socialists and women, or is that to much biology for them, and their running of this country and LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.
No thanks. You’re message seams to be incorrect and only shows women running freely are a disaster.
Women are the gatekeepers to sex, and the STDs are skyrocketing with their heightened civilization, or SYPHILIZATION, and do not seem to have the ability to take responsibility for their actions.
Just more socialist decay of society.
Nah, I’ll go with wrong, but then that is just HISTORY as laid out by millennia.
It’s not an either/or thing. To regard women well, and to honor them, does not threaten masculinity. Your comment seems to advocate rape.
A stunted mind can only think in one dimension.
Ew, no.
What I advocate is that men and women are different in both mind and body.
I pointed out the the claim of HEIGHTENED SOCIETY is expressly “on how well they treat its women.”
This did not end well for Rome.
I also pointed out all those utopian women societies that express that Heightened Society in the world today and throughout history, which I don’t seem to find remnants of.
Women are the gatekeepers of sex.
No HYMEN, No Diamond.
That is not rape.
That is man’s ability to determine WHO he will marry.
I’ll take that one step further, with all due sympathy to victims of “broken homes”.
If one has a good, intact normal two-parent family, with multiple siblings, and respects their parents and likes their siblings, one must seek only a person of the opposite sex who comes from a similar family background.
Because the development in most cases of victims of “broken homes” or homes filled with rancor and meanness is not even close to one who benefited from a good home, they won’t usually make a good match with each other.
One must think of one’s future children, and who their relatives will be…
My theory from vast observations over decades is that VD prevalence rises when effete poofters like the unit shown in the photo accompanying this article spend most of their time in sodomy, then they spread their maladies to women who think that these defective units “are so cute” until they wonder “why does it hurt when I pee” and/or the HIV test comes back positive, etc…
SYPHILIZATION! OMFG! Bookmarking that word in my head FOREVER!
Disagree in part because it is not nor ever will be an either or situation. Strong civilizations have strong women and strong men. Easy times breed weak men followed by collapse. Tough times breed tough men followed by success. Those tough men are not necessarily brutal to their women.
Citing Islam is citing an aberration, a twisted dead end society.
Tossing out Christianity as a sop to ethics in the article was telling.
Well said, but some people cannot see the distinction.
There are LIMITS to this point of view. One could point out that it is civilization’s SPOLING of women has led to the potential for this civilization’s collapse.
If Psychology was really interested in mental health, the DSM5 would be limited to about 4 pages – with the contents mostly coming from the Bible.
Good article. One is needed for men and how to assess women.
Are we still on 5? As fast as things have been changing (with background to the early 90s of course) I’da thought we would be on version 7 or 8 by now.
My daughter in her late 30’s in the dating world has experience with a lot of “players”. She is dating a wonderful man from Nigeria who has a great job, very stable and family oriented.
He says if a boy in Nigeria told his parents he is a girl the parents would beat him and the neighbors would come and help. Smile.
My one bit of advice is to find someone who shares your values.
WOW…!
We forget what a powerful effect TRUTH can have on us…!
Particularly when it’s been modified, withheld or willfully concealed from us, for so long in our day to day lives….and like a house raised, city dwelling Pointer….one encounter with a bird in a field and WE are reacquainted with that pure self and our TRUE calling.
Amazing insightful piece….sending to ALL the younger women in my life….and I’m OLD…..so there’s A LOT of recipients…..
Hoping they find themselves afforded the opportunity to get into the ” field”.
In my 60+ years experience and observation, in almost every case in which the men that become abusive and controlling over time, they were “sensitive” girly guys at the beginning and maintained that public perception for defensive purposes.
Yep,
Witnessed many such acts of violence.
Cheers!
I was blessed to have my mother’s best friend in my life as a surrogate mom. She guided me, listened to me, advised me, cheered for me, and joyfully embraced my daughter as her own grandchild. How lucky was I!
She shared this with me many many years ago as I was about to be married…
70/30. The balance to be looked for in any good relationship. Never expect 50/50, because although that’s balance, that’s unrealistic much of the time. For true balance, 70/30 is perfect, because sometimes it’ll be you at 70, sometimes it should be him. As long as the pendulum swings back and forth, you’ll always have understanding. Oh…and on the way to 70/30, it always hits 50/50.
Have shared that with many, and have lived it happily all of my married life.
Thank you for posting this on this Sadie Hawkins day, and for making my much missed and beloved Barbara (Grammie B) part of my morning.
I liked this post as well because God has set the standard for a relationship between men and women. to help both overcome the tendencies to be prideful, selfish or controlling.
Strong men are for strong women with traits that are complementary and fully supportive across all the joys and struggles of a marriage blessed by God.
On a lighter note I asked my bride about Sadie Hawkins day then found a great definition from the Farmers Almanac.
It originated in the Al Capps comic strip Li’l Abner with these dates:
The first Saturday in November or sometimes November 13, or 15th and a remark about Leap Day too
The date of Sadie Hawkins Day events can vary. The Almanac uses the first Saturday in November. (A Saturday is a great day to have a fun dance, after all!)
Some celebrate on November 15 because that is the anniversary of the original comic strip. However, some places in the United States may celebrate it on November 13, too.
Leap Day
A similar tradition is associated with February 29 in leap years. Long ago, Leap Day, also was known as “Ladies’ Day” or “Ladies’ Privilege,” the only period of time when women were free to propose to men. It is thought that this event may have been based on a Scottish law in the 1200s or on an Irish legend, but no one knows for sure.
Thank you Menagerie for a welcomed post
I was taught 100%/100%. I suppose on some days it might work out to seem like only 70% but we were both giving it our all. He died in 2007. We were married 39 years and had 7 children and had a ball doing it!
Man-buns. How did those ever get popular?
Most likely, the same way that breast augmentation got popular.
“Long hair is for girls”, that’s how.
I hope the young women listen. Great advice Menagerie.
Amen to everything written here!
Oh how I wish I had known this before marrying my ex-husband, who I stayed with for 22 years.I Never again married after those terribly rocky years…not brave enough to ever try again.
This Is One Of The Best Commentaries On Our Latest Social Downfalls.
I’ll Take A “MACHO MAN” Any Day, Over A BETA MAN, (Whatever That Is.)
BTW Menagerie, You Write Beautifully! You should start A Blog, OMG!
It’s widely accepted that male allies, or feminist allies, tend to be the “grapiest”. They are conniving, looking for vulnerability because they have no desirable traits or confidence.
BRAVO!!!! I raised two daughters. This is what I instructed them as they went through their dating years. They found winners!! Both of mine are able to be self-sufficient via education and occupations. However, they sought and found men who stand as head of the household as God intended. Men to provide, protect and encourage them. My grandsons are being raised to be this kind of men.
I am a delighted mama!!
Awesome!
lol… T Swift is currently dating her first alpha male.. She appears so happy.. no more soy boys for her …
Miss Swift is a pro-choice activist. Time will tell.
That “puppy love” will last until the first real “OH SHT!” crisis when the “Babygirl,” folds like a cheap suit.
That was a great read and worth every minute. Well done.
Excellent article and advice. I will take a Macho man any day over a guy who doesn’t know how to change a flat tire.
Better yet is a man who knows how to change your oil.
Amen!
April Fools Day early this year due to Leap Day? /s
The things one learns at TCH! Sundance studying up on the babydolls so we can free up brains for virtually anything else.
Who knew that those were even a thing, or that LARPing would be so widespread? Another sign of a societal top, or bottom?
The article was written
by Menagerie.
Stated under headline…..
🤷♀️💁🤷♀️
Not where I come from.
Commenting without reading beforehand (shame shame), betting I’m not the first to go there.
Great essay. Pleased to say my wife and I raised three sons who are self sufficient and productive members of society – definitely not baby girls. Now I just have to keep an eye on any grandkids that come along.
I totally agree with Menagerie.
The problem seems to be that many young people have been indoctrinated by critical race theory and also they have been taught that sexual perversions are normal. They think to look at homosexuals or transvestites as abnormal is cruel and uncaring. This means they are to some degree detached from reality. The idea of toxic masculinity is an attempt to pathologize normal manhood, and it is an attempt to create entire generations of people incapable of marriage and reproduction. The goal is depopulation. That is why they encourage every sexual perversion because the definition of sexual perversion is sexual behavior bent in a direction away from sexual reproduction. They have tried to make all this normal because they want to cut down on the number of people in the world.
The young people who are most vulnerable to sex and gender indoctrination are also likely young people without parents who love each other and who solve problems together. But even young people with happily married parents are being taught these messages all the time, and they know this is what all the other young people think. At certain points in life, especially adolescence, young people want to fit in, and don’t want to have ideas that will bring condemnation from their peers.
There is a role here for parents and grandparents, in that we can ask questions that our children and grandchildren might think about, that will help them question some of the ideology they have imbibed. Once our children become teenagers, it can be difficult to engage them in discussion about these things without them feeling judged or criticized, but it’s not impossible.
Maybe some of you have ideas as to how to engage children and grandchildren in a way that won’t make them feel defensive.
Be there along the way and the gkids will stick with you
And I HATE those damn tight pants, hate seeing them on men that I otherwise might respect. I don’t personally know one single man who would wear them.
This dude has the girly-man look down pat, for sure.
Perhaps this is a reason some “mother’s” push their little boys into transgenderism.
Incredibly well stated, Menagerie.
Even the great women of history had to weigh their options.
Queen Isabella of Spain, as the crown princess of Castile (central and northern Spain), was given the choice of the crown prince of France, the king of Portugal, or the crown prince of Aragon (eastern Spain). She chose Ferdinand of Aragon because even though he was an inch shorter than her, he was a warrior and a leader of men. The French guy was a fop and the Portuguese guy was a lecher. Isabella and Ferdinand drove jihad out of Spain (she pawned her jewels to make payroll for her soldiers), sent Columbus to the New World, and set Spain up for greatness, but their successors were not as dedicated to the Spanish people as they were.
Anne Boleyn whored her way onto the English throne, and when her wayward hubby wanted a new babe, it was off with her head. Katherine Howard’s head too, while he was at it.
Even Joan of Arc hoped to marry.
She told the French court, and later her English captors that she had taken a conditional vow of virginity, for as long as God the Father wanted her to remain single, but understood she would be free to marry with His okay after she completed her mission of crowning a king and securing his realm against the English.
Joan’s problem in finding a husband was there wasn’t a man worthy of her.
The man Joan really loved was married, so she behaved herself, and even reassured his wife he (Duke Jean D’Alencon) would come home safe to her after the wars.
Sadly, the same year the English burned Joan to death, after constantly trying to rape her in prison, Jean D’Alencon came home to his wife. And then she died the next year. D’Alencon was very bitter to French king Charles VII, who Joan and he and the other soldiers had put on the throne, but was too much of an ingrate to ransom Joan or try to rescue her. (Some of her officers tried to save her, but they were defeated, or the English spirited her away before her men grabbed the town she was imprisoned in.)
The Deep State of France hated and envied Joan, who only wanted to serve God, her people, and her homeland.
And, unlike Judas Iscariot, who regretted his treachery, these Deep State SOBs revel in it, like dogs rolling in horse manure.
Guys like that are just too much work.
Per Ace of Spades link provided^ and comments to their post about these guys I must share:
There’s only one problem: the vast majority of men don’t want to look like a mincing ponce.
Posted by: Archimedes at February 27, 2024
“Mincing ponce”isn’t that the greatest!!
This is reliving the 80’s. Alan Alda, real men don’t eat quiche conversations.
Ephesians 5:25-29: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church…
Ephesians 5:33: However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Going into a relationship looking for 50/50 is a recipe for failure. Each must give 100% of what they’re capable of, at any time. Take Menagerie’s ankle situation. Hubby gave what was needed. That’s 100/100.
A Fop.
Oh Brother, Where Art Thou – that movie has a great reference re:the *insufficiency* of FOP (pictured here)
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The movie clip has a blasphemy in it – immediately admonished; just in case you don’t care to hear it skip this
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sorely needed and welcomed (I pray) message Menagerie
Back in the late 90’s our teenaged daughters a had one of these guys in their high school circle of friends, and their impressions of him were much as you describe, regardless of what we tried to do to open their eyes. But we knew they were level headed.
Fast forward to the last years of college. Our daughters shared a small cottage which they’d fixed up. This guy was coming back to town to with “a friend” so they planned a reunion and invited these two to stay in the extra bedroom at their house. Our daughters were much more mature so, I simply asked them to ponder what those two guys would be doing up in their bedroom.
That ended. But I do remember that early teenage phase they went through and how vulnerable they were to the social/cultural pressures. But today, with social media imprinting kids very early and cellphones grinding out sophisticated social engineering, is a whole new world for parents.
It’s satan’s work. America needs a great revival.
Thank you for these wise words, Menagerie.
Brava, bravamissima…..!
Nice bag!
Looks like fine Corinthian Naugahyde.
I will be having a grandson later this year. I will do my part to make sure he doesn’t grow up to be a girly man. He may not end up having much in common with his classmates, he will have real skills and a love for the outdoors. He will have grandpa’s full backing to stand his ground as a male.
Congratulations RixSix… GPhood is such a gift.
Reveal the full scope of Vx hazards NOW to his parents… myriad lifelong consequences there… your part starts here & now.
Opposite sex DNA has been injected into children & babies for 90 years now… I think it’s having an effect, by the looks of things – here is the history/timeline
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Toxic Masculinity is the Alpha gene in the men. It suggest you have actual testosterone in your testicles, and not estrogen. Men who have toxic masculinity, sacrifice, work harder, don’t complain, pray, and will be the guy to answer the phone at 2 am when $hit has hit the fan. If women, those who can bear children, want a baby girl, you don’t want a man.
Your example is a good one.
The word “toxic” has been/is attached to masculinity to weaponize it; weaponizing the nature of males. What you’re describing isn’t literally toxic; masculinity isn’t literally toxic… the concept of ‘masculinity’ has been bastardized by satanic inversion… weaponizing the concept by coupling the term toxic with it in propaganda, which hypnotizes listeners.
Hurt people hurt other people – traumatized/damaged/distorted boys/men committing violence against others is what is toxic; self defense/preservation of life is the exception.
In thought/word/deed, never conflate masculinity itself with a toxic condition; never confuse violence against others as a “masculine trait” – it is a trait of traumatization/distortion/disruption/damage to a Human’s being.
“It would not be impossible to prove with sufficient repetition and a psychological understanding of the people concerned that a square is in fact a circle. They are mere words, and words can be molded until they clothe ideas and disguise.”
― Joseph Goebbels
“You can’t fight the dominant culture with language because the dominant culture is based on language; it’s not based on reality. People love to base things on language, because you can manipulate the hell out of language…people love to base culture on language. Language is killing us. So, I’m going to propose that, to change popular culture, it doesn’t matter what you say, it only matters what you do. Words will not save us. The only thing that will save us is the integrity of our actions.
~ Stephan Molyneux
“Philosophy is all about definitions. You can solve almost all philosophical problems in about 4 minutes if you actually define your terms…and the amount of obfuscation & confusion around those terms is exactly why evil & anti-philosophy continues.”
~ Stephan Molyneux
THANK YOU!!! I get so tired of the left changing the very true definition of something and our side can’t lap it up fast enough.
“TOXIC” masculinity is indeed a bad thing. The left has managed to make our side sound like idiots. Does “masculinity” even need a qualifier? Christian men can be masculine. Sensitive, caring men can be masculine.
Normal masculinity is perceived as toxic to many on the left and that’s their problem.
As my husband and I come upon our 50th wedding anniversary I can definitely say that the best percentage for both to give their marriage is 100%.