A Russian person could not visit New York, Chicago and Los Angeles and then say they visited The United States and have an understanding of Americans.  They might think they understand, but any American would giggle at the notion.

Conversely, the same is true in Russia.  You cannot visit Moscow, St Petersburg and Kazan and think you have an understanding of Russians.  However, if you give yourself time, join in the daily tasks and challenges of ordinary Russians, you can easily discover some of the deeper stuff that really puts context on life in the Russian Federation.

Perhaps what follows is a different perspective.

It took a while, but I finally figured out what this phrase “the Motherland” is all about.

Let me start by sharing another phrase that almost every American will find familiar, yet virtually every Russian asked has no reference to comprehend: “you work for us.”

When talking to a federal, state or local government official in the United States and saying, “you work for us,” everyone listening would completely understand your sentiment.  However, in Russia that phrase is akin to asking a Martian for a canoe.   This is the way to understand “the motherland.”

Within Russia the social compact is organized around the premise (key word “premise“), that government is the mother figure within a family – and all of the citizens are children.   The government knows best.  The state engages in all facets, systems and structures as if they are the omnipotent mother who cares about the children.

Women, the generally forgotten sense of the word woman, are held in high esteem, and “Women’s Day” is the biggest holiday throughout the federation.

The people of Russia generally accept this system.  Generations and generations of compliant, well behaved, very structured and regimented ideology still permeates.  The muscle memory is deepest in the psychological muscles that run through generations.

Oddly, this social compact is understood, but only understood insofar as the Russian people do not have any other reference point, or alternative system that would enable them to see the deficit in the oppressive system that surrounds them.

The average Russian knows the “West” is different but doesn’t really know why the social system they see outside their window seemingly operates with well-organized randomness.  What is this efficiency within unbridled capitalism you speak of, and why would Americans be willing to give it up?

Karelia Russia, early spring ’24

♦ As stated previously, the level of social compliance within the motherland compact is stunning.  Some observers might brush off extreme lawfulness as a remnant of strict authoritarianism – decades of hardcore soviet influence.  From that perspective, yes being an invisible “grey man” is safe; drawing attention to yourself can only bring the glare of Mother.

It is safer to be a “non-vulgar” generic sardine in a school of sardines.

Live within that system long enough, and it just becomes the natural way it is.  It doesn’t matter what the uniform rule is, generally Russians act with extreme compliance.

Standing in line, waiting for the light at a crosswalk, standing on the right side of the escalator, remaining stoic, “cultured” and “not vulgar” in a subway or public venue, putting your trash in an often-changed public receptacle, appropriate (quiet) use of the cell phone, the odd lack of talking in just about any venue, all the way to accepting ridiculous outcomes as a matter of engagement with the motherland bureaucracy.

The customs and norms circle around ordinary compliance and social acceptances, learned behaviors over time, and so they do.  Note, in part this behavior pattern makes it very easy to spot a non-Russian.  [That is also one of the reasons why I was careful about taking ordinary photographs, especially considering there were literally no tourists.]

From the 30,000 ft level, generally speaking, somewhere above 85% of the Russian population are compliant children, very well behaved with low expectations of anything in life that is not ordinary.  That larger part of Russia accepts their malaise as just “life,” and they move along.  The other 15% are part of the social strata (government worker or connected to a higher status), that affords them additional benefits.

St Petersburg, Russia – Spring ’24

Yes, there are definitely two castes or classes within the population, and this is a self-fulfilling prophecy, something the intellectual left in the United States will always deny.  Totalitarianism is on the far-left side of the political continuum. Within that leftist system, a process the USA is working toward, there are ‘haves’ and ‘have-nots’ – or what is more familiarly called “elites.”

Have you ever visited Disney or a theme park in the USA where you can purchase a higher priced ticket to go into a “fast lane” at each attraction?  The average price visitor stands in one long line, those who pay a much higher price get to skip to a much shorter line.  In Russia, that’s the analogy for the general population engaging in everything; literally everything in their life from shopping to where they live, the better system experience is based on wealth, and connection to govt, ie. “status.”

♦ There is no part of this social system that an average American would enjoy in the long-term.  Do not romanticize Russia.  Edward Snowden gave up his best life when he made his hard choices.

Put simply, ordinary life as an ordinary Russian is just not easy.  The concept of a social system structured around liberty and self-determination is unknown.  Russians are not “free” people in our western definition, not even close.

It is not uncommon to see police on foot, regular beat cops, on crowded streets stopping people and asking for “their papers.”  I am told the people being stopped are clearly not native Russians; but honestly, I watched this take place several times, and they all look Russian to me.

As I walked in the crowd with my friends, I asked them, “Do I look Russian”, because I was not being asked for my papers.

The response was generally that I look “white”, and the people being stopped by the police were not white.  However, again I repeat, everyone being stopped looked like a white Russian to me, so what do I know.

There were also a few seemingly random road checkpoints where you are stopped by police and asked for your papers when driving, or a passenger.  This always made me nervous (and my friends, although they were embarrassed to admit it), and with my passport I was always questioned and checked closely (but never detained – except as previously noted in the airport).

On the overall social oppression aspect, yes there are signs the Russian government is trying to change, to figure out a middle ground.  However, the default position of the social mechanism is set to strict control, oppressive govt and authoritarianism.

Step out of the sardine line, and you will end up regretting it – big time.  Ordinary Russians do not want to step out of line.

The problem for the Russian government is the generational compliance system does not create forward-thinking, independent thinking or entrepreneurship at the scale needed (Western scale) to rapidly advance modern society or keep up with technological changes and advancements. The DNA of Russia is static, lacking innovation, and built on this system of compliance.

Telegram founder Pavel Durov is a great representation of this outcome.  He created the social media platform inside Russia but then found out if he wanted to really control what he created, he needed to leave Russia.  He now lives in Dubai and operates Telegram with a small group of innovative tech experts.

On one hand, there are too many grey people, not enough independent thinkers, and that appears to be part of the problem in Russia.  Hence, the government has all kinds of financial and economic incentives for innovative Western tech people and businesses to emigrate.  However, on the other hand the government likes the domineering social compliance aspect, and they want to control communication networks, so they face recruitment problems.

Socially, the extreme compliance creates unity, cohesion and lawfulness.  However, that same permeating mindset chokes out innovation and independent critical thinking.  The lack of home-grown innovation, the people who actually think independently, means the industrial and tech business sectors must steal their ideas from other places.  It is not accidentally the same in China.  I think this is also why Russian hacking is so advanced.

The current/modern Russian government seems to hate the social wokeism stuff, within the “West,” more than they like innovation in a free-thinking capitalist society.  As a consequence, Dear Mother is not willing to allow her apples to fall away from the tree.

♦ The Western financial sanction regime against Russia has driven the Russian economy into a very close relationship with China, India, South Korea and larger Association of Southeast Asia Nations (ASEAN).  The new automobiles in Russia are almost all Kia, Hyundai and then Chinese models.  The Russians notably do not have many EVs; they are mostly standard internal combustion engines.  There are some newer USA and EU import vehicles, but those carry the cost of the 3rd party brokers (super high prices afforded only by the elites).

The odd thing about the sanction regime is the invisibility of it, unless you are looking deeply.  Sure, many western retail companies were forced to leave by western political demand, but their products are still mostly available.  I cannot visibly see any segment of the Russian economy where the sanctions are having a strong impact.  Quite the opposite is true, and all outward appearances of the Russian economy looked strong in both 2024 and 2025.

Again, in a general sense, because Russia lacks innovative capitalism, their infrastructure innovation is archaic and outdated.  This does not mean the old infrastructure is necessarily broken or doesn’t work; it only means it is old and very odd to see.   Russia spends a lot of time cleaning and maintaining its infrastructure, but large sections of housing developments and apartments are very old and look well past their use-by dates.

Analog is still everywhere; digital systems have yet to become mainstream.  If you step outside the center-city tourist perspective, you enter the 1970’s or 1980’s system in the suburbs dominated by the sardine cans where people live.  As a person who was born/raised like Huck Finn in Florida on the beaches, islands and backwater bayous, the stacked-up rows and rows of sardine can apartments is seriously wild and simultaneously “yikes.”

The sardine Russians enjoy their parks, and to be fair they have some really nice spring and summer parks to enjoy, provided and maintained by Dear Mother.  On nice weather days, the benches are full of people quietly talking to one another, enjoying the fellowship outdoors and generally being well cultured and exceptionally civil.

Random park in center city, St Petersburg, Russia

The well-mannered expectations of social rules, within the suburban and city park system, were explained to me, and I did not see a single reference of non-compliance or crude behavior anywhere – not even once.  NOT ONCE.

Truthfully, it’s really weird how quiet and stoic the Russian people are when they are enjoying their recreation time.  It’s like something out of a 1950’s pod-people movie, and after a while I found it to be very disconcerting, almost bordering on annoying for some reason.

I woke up early and hiked up to that specific and beautiful hilltop in Kareila, Russia, just so I could record that train video.  No one else was on the mountain. It was a cold and beautiful morning.

♦ Food and Diets – Russian people eat well, and generally you would say they eat healthy fresh food.  Because she was apparently concerned about it at some point, Dear Mather banned Canola oil in Russia as a food additive.

Fresh foods in Russia are what the average American would consider “organic foods.”  For those of you who grow in your own gardens, you understand what the food markets are like in Russia.

This is not to say Russians are “healthy,” because overall they might not be.  Smoking cigarettes and heavy alcohol drinking are very visible, and the difference in appearance between a 20-year-old and a 40-year-old is striking; perhaps that’s why.

Good quality food is cheap in Russia.  Everything you see on the counter in this picture (left) was purchased for less than $70.  I transposed the prices that I would pay at my local grocery store in the USA, and I came up with around $150-$175.

Processed food prices in Russia (crackers, chips, candies, cereals) generally are about half of what you would pay in the U.S.  However, on the fresh foods side (produce, fish, meats, dairy), the Russian prices are a fraction of the U.S.A costs.

[10 eggs for $0.50, bread $1, bananas $0.05/lb, salmon $2.00, head lettuce $0.50, berries less than $1, apples $0.45/lb, steak $2/lb, ground chuck $1.50/lb, etc]

A 30-mile cab ride is around $5 to $8, and gasoline costs less than $2/gal.

A typical “nice” restaurant meal for 2 people is around $15.00, and you can easily grab a burger and fries for $3/$4 at any fast-food place.  The average rent for a 1-bedroom apartment (city or suburb) is around $300-500/mo.  The average income of a middle class (blue collar) worker is around $1,000/month.

Those grab-n-go electric scooters and electric bicycles are well used in the Russian cities and cost around $1 for an hour (kinda cool, and yeah I used them).

Keep in mind, during the soviet era religion was essentially forbidden.  As a consequence, the Christian calendar within economic life (something you don’t think about in the USA) was erased.

In the USA the typical work week, Monday to Friday 9-5 weekends off, was an outcome of Christianity in the economy.  In Russia you can get a dental appointment at 8:00pm on Sunday, or a haircut at any random time of day.  All of the private sector businesses operate based on paying customer needs, not the social economic history of church attendance or worship schedules.

You can open a bank account in Russia using a passport, you do not need to live in Russia to open a bank account.  Almost everything in “modern Russia” is done through your phone number and apps.  On the downside, I have no doubt Dear Mother monitors all of the connected activity on the phone number.

FYI, there are no sanctions on telecommunications, and USA issued cell carriers operate reciprocity systems in Russia.

Instagram, Facebook, Rumble and all pornography sites are blocked on Russian internet, but people use VPN’s.  However, before you think it’s big government remember, the number of sites blocked by Russia is less than the number of Russian web sites and domain ip’s blocked by the USA govt.

If your Internet Service Provider (ISP) carries a Russian identifier, about half the USA websites will block it, including President Trump’s Truth Social platform.  This happens in cell phone networks and targeted apps also.

I find this to be very troublesome, because communication is critical to avoiding conflict.  The “West” and Russia are building walls around their internet protocols making it harder for Americans and Russians to talk to each other.   I do not think this is good.

♦ Healthcare – Russian healthcare is very cost efficient, and the system of healthcare itself is really cool.  This is one element where you could say Russian outcomes easily exceed the USA.  Healthcare for the average Russian is free; essentially, socialized medicine paid via taxes.  However, yes there is a private sector healthcare system available for those who want to pay for extra stuff.

Dental is a good example to give you an idea of costs.  You can get braces in Russia for less than $1,000 (generally $500).  Standard dentists visit for cleaning around $20.  That cost ratio carries throughout the general healthcare system that is remarkably modern, although if you need a specialized test like a CAT scan ($75), PET scan ($200) or MRI ($100/$150) you need an appointment at a govt institution (although, super-efficient timelines there too).

Within private sector healthcare, I’m told medical tourism used to be a big thing with people traveling to Russia for low-cost high-quality healthcare. I can see why.  I went on several visits to healthcare providers, and the in/out efficiency within both the govt and private sector was impressive.  You can also purchase just about all prescription medications (except narcotics classed meds) without a prescription at pharmacies (that are seemingly everywhere like convenience stores).

♦ The Russian Federation, at least through the prism of life as an ordinary Russian (generally middle class/worker class), is not really close to the portrayal that we see about it through Western media.

Russia is a beautiful country; it is massive and filled with natural resources.  From the landscape beauty and natural resource perspective, it is similar to the United States in many ways, but the USA is better.  Culturally, there is a big difference between the USA and Russia, some of the differences may be considered good, some of them not good depending on what point exactly we were discussing.

I can see how a very specific type of rugged individualist person may enjoy living in Russia more than the USA.  In a place where you are disconnected from the modern world and far away from the urban city centers; you can do just about anything you want in Russia – yes, even beyond what is possible in the United States.  However, on the aggregate, the ordinary life of the average MAGA American is far superior in quality than the ordinary life of the average Russian.

The opportunities to improve your independent life in the USA are present and within reach.  Those same opportunities are not easily found as an independent person in Russia.

When the innovative DNA is triggered in a Russian person, they are inherently compelled by disposition and expressive need to leave the federation.  That dynamic is the irony you will find buried deep under the surface, and for very obvious reasons it is the one dynamic the Russian government will not discuss.

If you were to ask me what is the “one thing” I think that will culturally change Russia, you just read what I think it will be in that prior paragraph.

Russians are a strong people. Super strong mentally and extremely pragmatic.  An American trying to be politically correct to a Russian will not stand a chance at the necessary pretending needed.  Russians are brutally honest, but after you get familiar with it, it’s extremely refreshing.

During my 2025 visit there were some noticeable differences.  The internet is turned off during times when the govt is concerned about inbound drones or other issues of Ukraine attack.  The Russian people brush it off, meh – just war stuff, and do something else until the internet is returned.

There are lots of children in Russia, more children in Russia than any other country I have visited in the past few years.  There’s honestly not even a close second place.  Children are considered very important and the ordinary Russian will express a protective instinct toward any child in any situation.

Feel free to use this discussion thread as an ‘Ask Me Anything‘ about my time visiting Russia in 2024 (April, May, June) and again in June/July 2025.  I will try to answer as best possible.

Love to all….

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