This is a re-post of something I wrote several years ago for Father’s Day. I think this Father’s Day weekend is a good time to share it again, and now is a good time to celebrate and appreciate God’s gift of manhood.
47 years ago tomorrow I was blessed to marry the most wonderful man in the world. From the time I met him, just before I turned 18, he became the yardstick I measured all men by. He’s never failed to keep that bar high.
He inspired this post. I love him with all my heart. He has my respect, my loyalty, my admiration. He deserved the best of wives in return, but never complained about settling for me.

26 God said, ‘Let us make man in our own image, in the likeness of ourselves, and let them be masters of the fish of the sea, the birds of heaven, the cattle, all the wild animals and all the creatures that creep along the ground.’
27 God created man in the image of himself, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them.
I had an experience this weekend that made me think about men, about masculinity. It seems manhood is under attack these days from many directions. Indeed, in my opinion, a part of what so offends so many people about President Trump, especially liberals and sissy Never Trumpers is his unapologetic masculinity. He is a man who knows his power and embraces it.
That being said (and I can’t believe I put it in here, knowing where it could lead) please don’t make this another political free for all. My point here is broader. I’m asking you to take your politics to the presidential thread. I’ll trash any off topic conversations or the whole post if needed.
To all you guys out there, tough guys, whether you express that inner strength clad in a business suit or well worn jeans and work boots, please accept the appreciation and approval of those of us who celebrate who and what you are, and what you do. Every day in ways large and small, you go out and just get the job done. You don’t ask for approval, thanks, or cheers, because it just wouldn’t occur to you, and you are too busy getting things done to stop for recognition.
Lots of feminists have a problem with men. I believe they throw around terms like patriarchy, which they probably never looked up in their Funk and Wagnalls. Some women, and even a few men, appear to be threatened by the reality of masculinity.
Get a grip chicks, if you are really okay with who and what you are, men are not a threat, but a gift, not competition, but complementary. If your “feminine power” must be derived from the destruction of the epic event of God’s creation, you are pathetic already and men have nothing to do with that failure, you own it.
I’m not even going to waste breath here encouraging men to not allow women to define their masculinity. He who does that is already beyond my poor advice.
All ages, sizes, colors, and other assorted variations. You were different from the moment of conception, and thank God for that. As a child you were faster, stronger, dirtier, and louder. You were often fearless while I stood beside you weighing the odds and assessing the situation. You climbed the tree while I looked for the ladder. You snuck out with the family car while I was cajoling dad for the keys.
In my day, back in the Dark Ages, as we grew into teens and young men and women, some of you actually appreciated my femininity and rewarded me with attention and admiration. Many of you were kind enough to open doors for me, walk alongside the curb beside me, and lift heavy objects before I tried to. You paid the bill for our dates, and if you ever wanted another one, you walked me to the door.
Because God is good, and loving, and gives us abundant graces and good things, in the early days of my womanhood, I fell in love with this wondrous creature God made from dust and clay. That right there ought to be a hint to us, man from dirt, earthy, strong, fundamental. But, I digress.
I married a man. A for real and not apologizing for it man. He has muscles and strength and brawn and intelligence and toughness, a toughness that nothing in this world has ever even come close to breaking. Not even a little crack. Not once in all our years (47 Monday) has he ever even paused in the face of terrible trials and hardships. Now, I know him. I know that he isn’t a robot and he isn’t superman. Sure he’s had doubts, fears, and moments of desperation.
He never once, not one time, not ever, considered giving in to them. On his shoulders landed the burdens that would have crushed me and our family without him. God alone knows the weight he bore. His faith was apparent and he led our family to church, led us in faith and worship. The kind that isn’t really so much talked about as lived.
So today, as we honor fathers, I just wanted to throw out a little appreciation for men. I pray that as the world turns and we learn from our mistakes, someday it is popular and honored for men to be men again. Soldiers, sailors, welders, business men, salesmen, teachers, pipefitters, mechanics, electricians, truck drivers, nurses, doctors, lawyers, preachers, rabbis, priests. Fathers, husbands, sons.
Thank you, God, for making men. Thank you for making them in your image. Thank you for all the wonderful men you gifted us with, especially your Son. Thank you for fathers who tirelessly protect and defend families, and not just their own. We pray that you sustain them each day and reward the fruits of their labor with strong families fit to handle the terrible troubles we face.
Happy Father’s Day guys, from the Treehouse to all of you.
Happy Anniversary Menagerie, you and your husband are both well blessed by our Lord and your testimony is a continuing blessing to all of us.
I too am grateful to have an old fashioned masculine husband; the increasing effiminacy of men sickens me.
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My dad passed away 6.5 years ago. I think of him every day. Especially on Father’s Day. I do not know how he managed (with mom) to raise us 5 kids on his salary — but he was always “there” and “present” for us — quietly toiling in the background to make sure our lives were safe, secure, and filled with promise. We all succeeded because he showed us how to shoulder our burdens and get on with life.
Happy Father’s Day, to dads living and deceased.
And happy anniversary to you and your husband. I wish you many more years of happiness together.
I remember when your father died, and wonder sometimes how your mother is doing. I hope she is well and healthy. Good to hear from you ZM, and thank you.
Our Lord’s blessings to you both, Menagerie. Your words are both thoughtful and true. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful sentiment. Be well, love. 🙂
Mom passed away in April at 92 years old. The last of that generation in the family — end of an era.
I’m sorry for your loss ZM.
Beautifully written, and absorbed by my soul completely!
Thank you,Menagerie. May you and your husband have a blessed Father’s Day. And to all the Father’s who read this…May God bless you 🙏 ❤ all….
That is beautiful!
Happy Anniversary yo you and your wonderful husband!
My wonderful husband moved on to Heaven 27 years ago.
And my wonderful Daddy moved on to Heaven 46 years ago.
I have some really good memories. God provides memories!
Honestly… I don’t need to be honored, thanked, put on a pedestal, flowers, just doin’ my job.
OK, maybe a hug and maybe you ladies of my house can figure out how to make espresso and cappuccinos with the nice Profitec 500 I bought a couple of years ago. I mean, it’s not like I’ve haven’t shown you how to grind, load, pack and profile the shot and how to froth the milk to perfection!
It sure would be nice to be served a double shot in the dark and a croissant… for breakfast. With Dad’s Low Sugar jams.
Anyways, for dinner I’m gonna make some ossobucco, with roasted potatoes, some green salad, french bread ( store bought ) and a nice bottle bottle of Santa Ynez Pinot.
I might even celebrated
Father’sTool’s Day.. I “need” a deWalt 20V jigsaw…. no batteries, for the time being, got lots, sort of, just the tool.Tool’s Day.
Thank You.
Well, Heck… They made me a good cup of coffee (drip) and got some excellent pastries for breakfast… then my daughter spend a big chunk of the day cooking… made my favorite apple dessert and offered to make the Osso Bucco… which come out excellent.
After that, I got gifts… they gave me the money to buy the Jig Saw. They said Home Depot carries three different version ( true ) so they figure they’d give way more than enough money.
It was a good day… spent time on their Apple phone with a video conference.
Nice.
Thank You.
“He deserved the best of wives in return, but never complained about settling for me.”
Au contraire, mon ami. You’ve got our number pretty good, so a little appreciation right back to you.
I married a girly girl a few years before your wedding date, and long ago concluded that any guy who has given it some thought will conclude that every guy marries “up.” Our wives know who we really are, and they love us anyway.
Have a great day with the family tomorrow.
Our wives know who we really are, and they love us anyway.
And not a day goes by that I do not wonder how in the heck she does it. Going on for five decades…
This post reminds me of the best qualities our real men have. Every squashed bug, fearless wake up in the night, step in front of move when a threat is near….these instinctual, protective, live sustaining, qualities are just a few that resonate on Father’s Day. Thank you, Dads, for not just being a sperm donor. Thank you, Dads, for the rough housing, teasing, tool wielding , strength showing overbearing masculinity that every woman wants and needs.
To the women who bash these qualities in speech but crave them in private-stop blaming maleness for your failures. Women who have it all have the love of a real man.
Happy Anniversary Menagerie, we just celebrated 58 years on 6/12/23. We have twin daughters,57 and two sons 55 and 52. And Happy Fathers day to your Hubby and all the fathers on CTH.
Feminist at 25: I am woman, hear me roar.
Feminist at 35: Gosh, where have all the good men gone?
Feminist at 45: My, this cat litter is not very absorbent.
I think many of us saw this soliloquy of late. Ms_Petch must be approaching her mid 30s developmentally even if her biological age is 20 something.
She’s describing most conservative men I know, lol. She doesn’t realize it. Too funny.
For those of you who missed it last I posted it for this woman in O/T.
How funny!
My wife has two female cats. The two have tightly bonded themselves to me.
How come cats get it?
There’s only one head of the pack. It’s the biggest – the one who will defend the pack. Our female dogs love me but know who is head of our pack.
Here at our home, it’s who fills the food bowls and cleans the litter boxes.
I am not a cat person. There are two rules at our home when it comes to cats.
Rule number one is I do not like cats.
Rule number two is the cats couldn’t care less about rule number one.
This is sooooo true!
Thank you Lord I was never a feminist. I love my man of 44 years. He is still all man, protector and my soul mate.
Thank you Menagerie for this great article. I sent it to my grand daughter. This is her and her husbands first Fathers Day.
Happy Anniversary to you and your husband.
May god bless you!
Thank you, Menagerie. Beautifully written and so very true. I married a man who loves women for their strength, their beauty and the interesting things we talk about. I fell in love with him because of all of that. He made a shy and insecure girl feel so special and loved. My strong, handsome man had a rough childhood, so we grew up together (and we celebrated our 48th Anniversary last month).
He was tentative about becoming a father, but I knew he would be good one, and he hasn’t disappointed. He is there for me and our daughter and her family — like the rock that he is. At 74 he is still climbing the tall lighthouse near us and giving tours to the top. He even got applause from the group he took up last week. He is my strength and my logic when emotions take me over.
Thank you, dear Lord, for this gift in my life, and thank you men and fathers for holding us up!
My father died before he could walk me down the aisle to get married, before he could bounce his grandchildren on his knee. I think of you often, Dad.
Good morning Kitty Myers. My Mom’s Dad passed when she was about 10, and I never met my paternal Grandfather.
My parents are getting on in years, and on a recent early Father’s Day visit, Mom gave me a family heirloom, an oval framed photo of my Yankee paternal grandfather, George Payne. Now I get to say hello to my paternal grandfather’s father every morning when I sit down for my morning coffee.
God bless you and yours.
Thank you.
Kitty Myers, I know your loss. My Father lost his life in an accident. His job was dangerous. I was 13. An only child.i loved my Mother but I worshiped my father. We never get over the ‘what ifs’..My thoughts are with you today…🙏
Menagerie, I doubt he settled for you. God bless both of you.
What an amazingly wondrous, uplifting, and kind hearted expression of love and respect. Right
back at you, Sundance!
Just let us be us! Especially boys as they grow up! You are right! Each guy marries up! The beauty, elegance, intelligence, sophistication and grace provided by their wife adds manifoldly to a husband’s knowledge, capability and emotional stability! Then there is love! An incredible, intense and almost mystical feeling and tie, that writers and poets have unsuccessfully spent centuries trying to define. It is us- that thank that woman who chose to be with each of us on Father’s Day!
A wonderful tribute to all men and a reminder that behind all good men stands a wonderfully strong, forgiving, sagacious woman.
Thank you Menagerie for probably the best Father’s Day gift I’ve had in a long time. This moved me…and I AM a Man and a father…and blessed to still have mine. My parents just had their 63rd anniversary! Talk about testimonies…a marriage that lasts that long is truly amazing these days. Happy Anniversary to you as well and thanks again for this, I’m starting my day feeling appreciated…something I never think about or even really consider. As you say…we get up and do what needs to be done constantly every single day with no other thought than…getting it done! I’m divorced, have been for 15 years now…and alone….but I do still have both my parents which at their age is truly a blessing! And…they got through the plandemic even though they got it…are still healthy, mindful people, awake and aware of all that is.
Happy Father’s Day to all you other Fathers, from a father!
A father raising a boy while helping him become a man is the greatest satisfaction.
True… but don’t forget… seeing your daughter break through her adolescence and become a great woman is also equally awesome.
We got one of each… very different in their temperaments but equally great people.
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Thank you, Magic!!! Happy Father’s Day! Here it is:
Sooo beautiful! I just read this to my husband of 38 yrs. You put into words what I dont have the eloquence to express. Thank you! Happy Anniversary!
Menagerie. You’re the best! Next to me Sweets of course. Fathers Day and our 35th anniversary. Banner day for me!!!
Well done… Thank you… I read this with an ice pack on my elbow and ankle.. unloaded my new lawn tractor out of the bed of my truck “the hard way.” So excited to use it, I ignored the blood, the sun hat, and the SPF 30 in S.GA at noon. I am reminded this morning that I am not an immortal.
Happy Fathers day and get better soon. We are not immortal in N GA either….
Thank you, Menagerie, a welcome reminder.
My best friend/husband/father/finest man in the world died of cancer 4 years and 3 months ago. I miss his intelligence, strength, humor, and sheer capableness every single day. His memory will always be with me. He was an electrical engineer and a musician, and superb at both.
My father is 94 and still, with a few physical limitations, is the intelligent, thoughtful and helpful man I grew up with and who has been my biggest cheerleader for more years than I’m willing to admit 🙂
I am more than grateful for the men who are and were in my life. I hope I give as much in return.
It is refreshing to know that the nice, sane ladies, real women of the world still appreciate real men and their inherent attributes and natural inclinations instead of the demeaning, degrading comments and efforts to ‘change’ men that the feminists (feminazis) exclaim and push down on society through the educational system and media.
It’s even better that one of these ladies, has the courage and temerity in the present state of affairs to exclaim to all in writing in a public forum to especially the other ladies and children of the world, that it is not only ok, but should be expected and encouraged, for men to be men.
I sure don’t see this proclaimed or talked about anywhere else.
God Bless You, Menagerie and like minded ladies!
The world is better off because of you.
The things I loved most about my father were his inner strength, his quiet determination and his silliness. He loved us kids and we loved him equally back. After all these years, he is still GREATLY missed this Father’s Day!
¡¡Feliz Día del Padre!!
Happy Father’s Day a todo!!
Thank you for this beautifully written post about our fathers, husbands, sons and brothers… our Men of Courage. Many blessings on this special day to all who have had the privilege to know and love men such as these. Dear Heavenly Father, please protect these men in our lives for they are all heroes in one way or another… and for that, we are all blessed beyond measure. 🙏🏻🎚️🕊️
Thank you Menagarie for your love of the selflessness of men. Congrats on you anniversary. I’d suggest a real women is required to make a real man.
I didn’t understand who God called us men to be when I first married at 19. Marriage was a competition to see how I could get what I wanted. Things worked when our desires and wants were being met. Marriage went disastrously wrong when they weren’t. Sadly my kids were damaged in the wake of the selfishness of the adults who were supposed to protect and guide. I pray for God to bring Jesus with skin on to each of them in their brokenness.
I met a man like your husband that had a mens group that met a 5am so he could get back home in time to roust his kids. His question to us wannabe men was, “ are you being sweet, gentle, tender, loving, and kind? For 25 years He was my friend and guide to becoming someone closer to what God calls us men to be. Covid took his life 2 years ago and I miss him. He was my spiritual father.
God has taught me how to love and brought someone who loves me for me, I’m loved today at 62 as I never was by mother, grandmothers, aunts, or ex. 15 years ago I never would have even looked her direction. Today I have a Black Pearl that there is no price to be paid for. There is Grace, Beauty, and Perspective poured out in my life. God really does care about the little stuff.
The bible says that Iron sharpens Iron. I would go a step farther and say that men need the pounding, heat, and pressure to change their iron into steel that can actually do something good. Something like guard a woman’s heart from that same battering. Fathers are the best place for that lesson to happen. It’s harder and takes longer when Dad is focused elsewhere.
I’ve come to believe a Woman’s heart is not metal but made of the finest Crystal. It can sing and draw admiration as your article does. Once broken it’s really hard to put back together.I’m becoming a man who protects that Crystal like a hand basket on a French rapier. The crystal is seen, heard, and the center. The battering of the world is taken by the guard around. It’s what steel is made for!
Thanks for making a place today for those of us still learning from our troubled past..
I left out that my friend was a man’s man because it was so obvious to those around him. Army master chief and bronze star in Vietnam . Never knew from his words any of that history. Immovable strength and “sweet, gentle, tender, loving, and kind”. I’ve learned that hugs solve many more problems than confrontation.
It takes a real woman to describe a real man.
Thank you, Menagerie, I always enjoy your posts a lot.
I loved this the first time I read it Menagerie. Thank you for sharing it again. I will pass it along to all my friends and family and hope they understand the appreciation we should have for the men in our life today.
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY to all the guys out there! God bless you!
Are you my wife and I don’t know it? Sherry has been by my side for 54 years come Tuesday. We were 19 and 20, filled with wonder and excitement. Age has slowed us, but every day is new, just as are His mercies. Beautiful writing this morning Menagerie. I really appreciate you.
A beautiful post, and happy father’s day to all the dads.
It’s not father’s day in Australia until Sept. But, nonetheless it is important that I take the opportunity to say that I have the best dad. Sorry to everyone else, but no one can be better, it’s simply not possible.
He’s a real bloke. Hard working, smart and funny and loving. And so much more. I honestly cannot believe my luck ♥️♥️♥️
Sep. In Australia. June in Americia. I say- let each day be celebrated for the blokes in our lives…❤
Beautifully said. Happy Father’s Day.
my dad went to heaven on feb 20 of this year.
i feel like i lost my keys and can’t find them.
half my horizon is gone.
he was so much more to me than just my dad.
my best friend.
my hero.
my example.
happy fathers day.
i miss you sooo much.
we will be re-united again.
in heaven.
with Christ.
forever.
i love you.
thank you for being my dad.
thank you for loving me.
thank you for taking care of me.
thank you for your example.
i know i will see you again.
it’s this interruption period that sucks.
i miss you now.
down here.
can’t wait to see you again…this time up there.
i love you.
As a man, early on I took my father as my role model. He was kind and generous. Yet, while being lion-hearted and courageous in facing the daily grind necessary to feed and clothe and shelter nine children, he had a servant’s heart. Some men have hearts of tyrants, but Dad had a servant’s heart. Rest in peace, Dad. If I could be 1/10th the man you were, I’d consider myself to have served God and my fellow humans well.
What a wonderful outlook and attitude you have on life, Menagerie. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on men and women! God Bless.
Beautiful post Menagerie. Thank you for sharing it with us. 😊
It would behoove American men to read C.S. Lewis book, THE ABOLITION OF MAN and especially the chapter, MEN WITHOUT CHESTS. We need men with chests today to save our people and our country. We’re seeing a lot of those kinds of men in the dissident docs! May they be blessed for their work.
Thank you, now as a grandfather, I realize the mistakes that I made in raising our 3 sons. A little too harsh here, a little not so harsh there, and so on. Hence, in today’s world I am trying to guide my grandson with and by examples of love and respect that I have for his grandmother, for his mother, for his little sister,and for his father. Forgive them, open doors for them, speak properly to them, respect them, protect them, and read your Bible. It is my prayer that he will absorb some of it and that he will call upon God through prayer and the Bible to fill the blanks once I am gone.
Lost me here: “Some humans with an X chromosome, and a few without one, appear to be threatened by the reality of masculinity.” Is this a typo? Have I not had enough coffee yet this AM? Am I completely not understanding the author?
Duh me! I sure worded that backwards, thanks for pointing it out. I’ll go back and fix it.
As a counselor for teens at an inpatient adolescent unit for chemical dependency I found out how crucial fathers are to their children, particularly their sons.
A 15-year old alcoholic and drug addict came to me with a special request the week before Father’s Day. He needed to go to a store that sold Father’s Day cards. Now, I knew this kid’s father had abandoned his family when the teen was 5 years old and had had no contact since. He had no earthly idea where his father was or if he was alive. Neither did his mother. This was before Facebook and social media.
He proceeded to tell me that every year since his dad left he got him a card just hoping that buying and signing this card would somehow bring his dad back.
It’s not professional for a counselor to cry in front of a patient but tears welled up and I realized at that moment in time what really matters to children and how the absence of a father affects boys. No doubt at all his substance abuse helped him escape the pain.
This teenager finished the 28-day treatment program and I saw him at meetings for about 6 months after that. I do not know what happened to him or if he stayed clean and sober but every Father’s Day I remember him.
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Thank you Menagerie, your writings are truly beautiful.
The “ booze” took our dad when he was in his early forties, in truth my two brothers and I were grateful.
We were in a bad spot as mum had “ disappeared “ prior to that.
Fortunately for us our dads dad stepped up, and took us three young boys in.
He had been a commercial fisherman in the North Sea ( Scotland). but had retired.
Unable to “return to the sea” he took a factory job that broke him spiritually and physically so as to feed and clothe us.
Well today his three grandsons are all married, all have children and are spiritually and materially doing just fine.
Today my wife and two daughters in law are putting together a spread for us, while our two sons and three grandsons “ hang out”
The only thing missing is a true rock of a man..
My Grandfather ❤️
Cheers to all, and may President Donald Trump have a truly wonderful Father’s Day.
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Advance Congratulations on your anniversary, and thank you for the kind words.
Beautiful words, Menagerie. Thank you. I’ve always thought that the “toxic masculinity” label being tossed around is just one more horrible lie that we have to deal with in our sick society. ..then your article comes along and goes down like a cool drink of water on a hot day. It is a happy Father’s Day…thank you again.
Thank you
We’ll be at 47 years in mid-July!
Long-suffering wife gets all the credit, plus 10 mostly-supportive children.
Old dude…. I think we’ll be 37 in mid July today…. I don’t know… I can’t count, it’s all a blur.
And ten kids? Jeez… I thought our 2 were enough.
Have fun.
What a lovely heartfelt tribute to men! I am married…going on 49 years to my high school sweetheart. He was my first boyfriend and my last boyfriend. He is my best friend, my lover, my teaser, my knight-in-shining-armor. He loves me and our daughter (who is 36) more than anything in the world. There isn’t a car he can’t fix, a carpentry job he can’t do, and fixes anything electric, or plumbing. He is tender hearted, but at the same time…suffers no fools. I love him with all my heart.
My own Daddy passed away several years ago, and I miss him every day. So did my step-father, and father-in-law…ALL missed.
They say that REAL MEN are hard to find these days, and I definitely see that when I go into the city. (We live out in the country.) I did retire from working 17 years in the fire service (administrative asst to the fire chief), and boy–do I miss all those wonderful guys–who are all unapologetically masculine in every sense of the word. Anyway, Thank you again, Menagerie for penning this piece for this day. It makes us all take stock of the blessings that our husbands, fathers, sons, brothers, etc are to all of us.
It’s going to take Real Men and Iron Ladies to get us out of this mess !