This is a re-post of something I wrote several years ago for Father’s Day. I think this Father’s Day weekend is a good time to share it again, and now is a good time to celebrate and appreciate God’s gift of manhood.
47 years ago tomorrow I was blessed to marry the most wonderful man in the world. From the time I met him, just before I turned 18, he became the yardstick I measured all men by. He’s never failed to keep that bar high.
He inspired this post. I love him with all my heart. He has my respect, my loyalty, my admiration. He deserved the best of wives in return, but never complained about settling for me.

26 God said, ‘Let us make man in our own image, in the likeness of ourselves, and let them be masters of the fish of the sea, the birds of heaven, the cattle, all the wild animals and all the creatures that creep along the ground.’
27 God created man in the image of himself, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them.
I had an experience this weekend that made me think about men, about masculinity. It seems manhood is under attack these days from many directions. Indeed, in my opinion, a part of what so offends so many people about President Trump, especially liberals and sissy Never Trumpers is his unapologetic masculinity. He is a man who knows his power and embraces it.
That being said (and I can’t believe I put it in here, knowing where it could lead) please don’t make this another political free for all. My point here is broader. I’m asking you to take your politics to the presidential thread. I’ll trash any off topic conversations or the whole post if needed.
To all you guys out there, tough guys, whether you express that inner strength clad in a business suit or well worn jeans and work boots, please accept the appreciation and approval of those of us who celebrate who and what you are, and what you do. Every day in ways large and small, you go out and just get the job done. You don’t ask for approval, thanks, or cheers, because it just wouldn’t occur to you, and you are too busy getting things done to stop for recognition.
Lots of feminists have a problem with men. I believe they throw around terms like patriarchy, which they probably never looked up in their Funk and Wagnalls. Some women, and even a few men, appear to be threatened by the reality of masculinity.
Get a grip chicks, if you are really okay with who and what you are, men are not a threat, but a gift, not competition, but complementary. If your “feminine power” must be derived from the destruction of the epic event of God’s creation, you are pathetic already and men have nothing to do with that failure, you own it.
I’m not even going to waste breath here encouraging men to not allow women to define their masculinity. He who does that is already beyond my poor advice.
All ages, sizes, colors, and other assorted variations. You were different from the moment of conception, and thank God for that. As a child you were faster, stronger, dirtier, and louder. You were often fearless while I stood beside you weighing the odds and assessing the situation. You climbed the tree while I looked for the ladder. You snuck out with the family car while I was cajoling dad for the keys.
In my day, back in the Dark Ages, as we grew into teens and young men and women, some of you actually appreciated my femininity and rewarded me with attention and admiration. Many of you were kind enough to open doors for me, walk alongside the curb beside me, and lift heavy objects before I tried to. You paid the bill for our dates, and if you ever wanted another one, you walked me to the door.
Because God is good, and loving, and gives us abundant graces and good things, in the early days of my womanhood, I fell in love with this wondrous creature God made from dust and clay. That right there ought to be a hint to us, man from dirt, earthy, strong, fundamental. But, I digress.
I married a man. A for real and not apologizing for it man. He has muscles and strength and brawn and intelligence and toughness, a toughness that nothing in this world has ever even come close to breaking. Not even a little crack. Not once in all our years (47 Monday) has he ever even paused in the face of terrible trials and hardships. Now, I know him. I know that he isn’t a robot and he isn’t superman. Sure he’s had doubts, fears, and moments of desperation.
He never once, not one time, not ever, considered giving in to them. On his shoulders landed the burdens that would have crushed me and our family without him. God alone knows the weight he bore. His faith was apparent and he led our family to church, led us in faith and worship. The kind that isn’t really so much talked about as lived.
So today, as we honor fathers, I just wanted to throw out a little appreciation for men. I pray that as the world turns and we learn from our mistakes, someday it is popular and honored for men to be men again. Soldiers, sailors, welders, business men, salesmen, teachers, pipefitters, mechanics, electricians, truck drivers, nurses, doctors, lawyers, preachers, rabbis, priests. Fathers, husbands, sons.
Thank you, God, for making men. Thank you for making them in your image. Thank you for all the wonderful men you gifted us with, especially your Son. Thank you for fathers who tirelessly protect and defend families, and not just their own. We pray that you sustain them each day and reward the fruits of their labor with strong families fit to handle the terrible troubles we face.
Happy Father’s Day guys, from the Treehouse to all of you.
For those of us who did not grow up with an honorable biological father; I thank all the men who did step in and do things for me and my mother (uncles, my brother, brother-in-laws) and who showed me examples of how a decent man acts.
I am happy to have married a man whom I am proud of and who steps up no matter how difficult the job is! A man who has strength of character and kindness of heart, and the energy to run circles around much of our younger generation!
Nice tribute, Sheri!
Amen. And AMEN!!!!!!
Lovely. Just lovely Menagerie. ♥️
I have one of those specimens ♥️besides me.
47 years.
May 14, 1976.
Happy Father’s Day to every dad ♥️ here on the Last Refuge.
It’s a big job you were given.
very nice thank-you. I would say to women…do not marry a man that you do not respect and want to be lead by him…that is the way God set it up…don’t settle. Wait for the right one.
YUP!
when government takes the role of the husband and father this is mess that they make. every major problem in America today can be traced to that. if America is to be saved we must get back to our God given roles. Praise God.
A beautiful tribute, manaergie.
The “complimentariness” of male and female goes far beyond the procreation; both Girls and Boys need mothers and fathers, or at least ROLE MODELS, as they are growing up, in order to be grounded, sensible adults.
The war on the family has been ongoing for a long time; the 1965 welfare reform, which pushed MEN out of the home in “poor” households, not just “black”, the promulgation of divorce to the point that the 6th grader that didn’t have “4 parents” was the rarity,..correlates right along with the war on Christianity.
Satan has been building up to this ultimate confrontation for a LONG time.
As a man, husband and Father of daughters, I would just say “Thanks, right back at you!” as woman who ’embrace their womanhood are also a wonderful blessing.
I often confound those woman and inccreasing # of soyboys, who spout that “patriarchy” crap, by pointing to the movie “the Wizard of Oz”.
It was one of the first movies in color, so was obviously made back when (they say) this promulgation of “patriarchy” was being “pushed”..right?
And recall the first 5-10 minutes of the movie, and the interactions between Auntie em, with Uncle Henry and the “hands” and tell me Auntie Em wasn’t in charge.
And, when there is a confrontation between Auntie em and the witch,…Uncle Henry stays OUT of it, while making his feelings subtle known.
Point being, the movie was projecting the views on the roles of Men and Women at the time, and there was no “Patriarchy”.
“The man always drives the car, cause he is in CONTROL.”
The woman always rides, cause she LETS him.
LOL.
A beautiful post Menagerie!
A happy, grace filled anniversary and Father’s day.
Happy Father’s day to all and we thank Our Father in Heaven also for promising to never abandon us.
We need Him to intercede for all fathers to discover their gift and responsibility to love, provide and protect their families as they lead them towards the Kingdom.
And that’s what MAGA is all about. That’s what President Trump is all about-the freedom to be authentic men and women who serve God, family and country.
Menagerie, thanks again for this post! I remember when I first read it and it moistened my eyes a tad then too! I raised my two boys by myself and I’m very Proud of them! I got to see what a Job that was. And I thank GOD for the experience. Being a construction worker and a truck driver was a piece of cake compared to being a dad! Now I have two beautiful Daughters-in-law and 8 Grandsons, the oldest a SOLDIER in the US Army (4 th generation to Serve!) And I see a little bit of myself in every one of them. I have been truly blessed. So thanks for remembering Fathers Day. And BTW, they can “attack” us, but as for me, I say Bring It On!! Today a barbecue on the front porch, a couple brewskis, probably a short nap and walk the K9. Thanks! Rick and Rebel the Dog!
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So many nice comments for such a well written and heartfelt tribute to your husband. I married the love of my life but he passed away in 2018 after 47 wonderful years. Happy anniversary and happy father’s day to all the fathers here.
P.S. Menagerie, it was good to see Zurich Mike comment. It’s been a long time since he last commented. I can’t help but to connect his name with that commercial BACON BACON BACON! (For those who don’t know, he loves bacon)
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I think what you will find , SD, is real men are comfortable with themselves… my mom use to tell me “always be true to yourself “.. so we don’t need affirmation from others to define us..beautiful article..it’s nice to hear others get “it”..😀👍
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Menagerie,
Thank you for those thoughts. It is easy now to see why Sundance is so great at what he does. Thanks to both of you. Happy Father’s Day.
The BEST thing I ever did was be a part of all my children’s activities!!
And I’m sorry, women are NOT fathers!!
I’ve been a single dad for 12 years. Primary care taker. All school homework etc done with me. All school activities I take them to and attend. I make sure they have real home cooked meals at least six nights a week. I NEVER consider myself a MOM.
Good job Lesko!!
These days the women are very disappointing. Most of them are selfish, self centered, ego maniacs who are more concerned with how many “likes” they have on fakebook. Very few have ANY traditional values at all.
Most “leftist” women are that way- not conservative God fearing women-FIFY.
Tears.
To all our Dads Happy Fathers Day . Thank you for all that you do every day . Have a great day
Beautiful!
Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful dads!
LOVED this! I’m printing it out for my hubby’s Father’s Day card. We’ve been together since we were 16, and are now 75. Every word you wrote mirrors exactly the kind of man he is.
Thanks for your wonderful post!
Congratulations!
I am married to a REAL man. Happy Father’s Day
Love this post! I love masculine not macho. It’s sad how so many men have allowed themselves to be beaten down by feminism and political correctness, or let their wives take on the head of the household role. I applaud all the real men out there – not the males, guys, dudes – the men!
Great to see that there are still real, Godly men out there. I sent the below letter to the paper in response to an article about the Southern Baptist denomination holding firm on the admonition in the Bible that women are to be silent in the church – no women pastors. Of course, they will never publish it but I know it has to be read by at least one person.
Kudos to the Southern Baptists for having the intestinal fortitude to expel churches that do not adhere to the Word of God. Rick Warren, one of the pastors of the churches to be ousted made a plea that the denomination allow wiggle room, that his church abided by most of the denomination’s requirements. This is akin to the “slippery slope” theory. If the church can change a small part of God’s Word to fit their desires, it opens the door to changing more to fit the “modern” beliefs of the churches. If this happens, God’s Word will just become a guideline and soon after that – a suggestion. God created man first and then created woman to be a “helpmeet” to the man, not his overseer or his pastor. Men are being pushed out as head of the family – women are taking over. Not God’s plan and will not end well.
who wrote that? It’s great!
Menagerie
I want to express my heartfelt love for Man -The man who feels and bleeds and love. This male force that has built our intellectual and cultural civilization. Man who has protected the home and family, a woman cannot do it without you – without your logic, strength, compassion and dedication. I love the way you think, a man thinks differently than a woman. I see the way a man expresses sensitivity through helping another fellow being in need. Man can reach heights of nobility because He was designed to shape civilization by God. I am thankful for all fathers and future fathers, sons and brothers. I am blessed by having known such beautiful men in my life. I celebrate and salute you.
Thank you for that wonderful post. And Happy Anniversary tomorrow!!
My grandfather died prematurely from the side effects of Mustard Gas poisoning from WWI when my father was a boy. At 11 years old my father worked in the fields on his uncle’s farm. Hard labor. He supported his siblings and mother.
This prevented him from attending school. Later, my father got his GED. He went to trade school and apprenticed as an electrician.
He served in the army, married my mom, and put both of his daughters through college. We both have advanced degrees.
He purchased a home for my grandmother and supported her throughout her life. He paid for down payments on homes for both of his daughters. He constantly repaired anything and everything for both of us.
My Dad — was grandfather to two grandkids, my potbelly pig for 18 years, my sister’s horses, all the dogs, cats, bunnies, birds, etc. They all loved him — and it was reciprocated ‘yugely’!
Even Mr. McGoose loved my dad to pieces. Silly bird “helped” my father make repairs to his motorhome and truck by stealing the tools out of the tool box.
Dad continuously helped people in the community until he was in his 80s.
My father filled in as a father to several friend’s kids who lost their fathers. They called him “Dad”.
You know what — I bet this is a similar description of thousands of fathers.
We love all of you and miss those no longer with us — every day!
♥️Happy Dad Day! ♥️
Happy Fathers day..
Pretty much says it All!!
Jab, I see jab.
I have been blessed to be surrounded by real men who were also awesome Dads. My own Dad, my husband, and my sons. I thank God for them every day.
Thank you for this beautiful post in celebration of real men.
This is one of the loveliest tributes to a father, “My Father Asks for Nothing.”
https://www.sippicancottage.com/2009/03/my-father-asks-for-nothing.html
The writer’s father was a gunner on a B-24 bomber in the Pacific in WWII. Decades later, there was an airshow nearby with the last working B-24 on display, and his father wanted to go see it.
That was awesome. Those are the people who would hate these current “statesmen” with the fire of a thousand suns. I completely agree.
AMEN, Menagerie, Amen!
Thank you for posting this from all us wives & daughters.
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Happy Father’s Day to everyone!
Thank you, wonderful in its truth and simplicity –
The very best thing a Dad can do is pick a good wife.
Hopefully pre fatherhood.
Thank You For Those Encouraging Words. My day just got a lot more happier !!
A beautiful tweet from James woods. If you click on his twitter feed, you will see some related tweets.
The pictures look like something bjorkdream would come up with.
HAPPY FATHERS DAY! – Benefits of having a father. . .
https://commoncts.blogspot.com/2023/06/happy-fathers-day-benefits-of-having.html
Thank you for the lovely post, Menagerie. May God bless you and your hubby with many, many more wonderful years together. My wife and I are 46 years in August and each day I love her more than the day before, and the day before that, and the day before that, and so on. We’ve always felt that we complemented and supplemented each other in so many ways in our daily lives. Our kids adore us — a true blessing we treasure. Regardless of how the world is spinning, our faith and love in God and in one another keeps our hearts warm.
cross posted at https://freedomaustralia.freeforums.net/thread/3543/thank-god-men-real
I do not know who my biological father is, and I don’t know if he knew about me or not…my birth mother wouldn’t tell me and she died soon after I traced her.
But, the father who raised me and took me out of the orphanage was wonderful (and so was his wife). Thank Gd for adoption! (They are both long gone now, though 🙁
I love the freedom that God gave me to think whenever. It might sound stupid but if you are free you tend to think free. The decline is otherwise. Good things come out of beings free.
Because the academic left has worked tirelessly to destroy traditional values and institutions we ve seen the result be men who are afraid to be male and women who are convinced they must be better than men. Instead of natural roles they have created a hostile and dysfunctional culture.
But there are still plenty of men and women who know and love what it is to be just that. When they fund each other it is an incredibly fulfilling life.
A real man knows how important a real woman is in his life and treasures it with all his being.
Here’s to the real men and women.
Wonderful post (as usual) Menagerie! A tribute to your wonderful husband who has been beside you for these many years now. You are a very lucky woman!
I am! Thank you.
I look at and think of old songs now as books never written. Songs always carried with us through eternity. Stages in peoples lives that we never thought possible because of mistakes we slowly corrected through time. If we dont learn from our mistakes, go to war with it.
Perfect!
What an absolutely loving and memorable tribute to the founder of this website! I am always looking forward to it! God bless you and your family, and may He work through you to empower all of us to achieve and implement the mind of Christ in all we do, and demonstrate it in the things we embrace, pursue and achieve! My wife of 50 years has stood by me all these years through many hard days and some very special wonderful ones. Please know that his dedication to you is demonstrated in all that he has done for us as a community, and the children who follow!
What really makes a father the best is his support team – his wife and his family. Thank you all for the great posts but humbly, I give credit to my family who make me want to be a better father.
Wonderful….
Could never say it better. Amen! Thank you.
My Dad. How I Love him and how glad I am to Know where he is, right now, even though I sure miss him. I don’t begrudge one Moment of his Time in Heaven, with our Heavenly Father. How I am still so very blessed to have had him for my father.
God bless all you Real Men out there.
Thank you. I really appreciate ALL your posts on so many important days…
I’m all choked up inside with happy tears. Beautiful.
Real nice. Adios muchacho.
Masculine men amd feminine women, each doing their thing, together as equals, is one of the most powerful combinations for family and country.
Thank you Menagerie!
My husband dies 9 years ago and he was a real MAN! Unlike the ones I run into today no matter what the age it terrible. They are smoking weed,adicted to sports,no interest for history world events or politics,lazy,and very self centered.
Being a Catholic and a widow not even in church there are no real MEN! Part of the reason are women who were out to get them or they have been burned. The women are spoiled do not cook clean or care enough they are hooked on money Whatever it is it is sad for real women love real men. I miss Robert like there is no tommorrow and my Dad.
In this new and confusing world (to me), if a man gives birth, is he still a father? Or is Mothers Day his, ‘er “her”, day? Or does he/she/they/them/it receive attention on both days?
Asking for a friend.
Jokes aside, I always look forward to Menagerie’s posts. And this one warmed my heart more than usual. Thank you, Menagerie