Boyhood Under Attack: Why Boys Can’t Just Be Boys Anymore

From our friends at PJMedia, first in a series about the War on Men.

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46 Responses to Boyhood Under Attack: Why Boys Can’t Just Be Boys Anymore

  1. Ed Watts says:

    Mr. Whittle, we haven’t gotten “higher educational standards out of women” (04:43) at all! What we have done is that we have held boys back, preventing them from attaining their maximum levels, thus making girls/women appear to have closed a “gender gap” in educational outcome. Like with “integration”, knowing some facts is fundamental to understanding the “dumbing down” of America. Whenever any sort of leftist/government program produces more equal outcomes, one can rest assured in believing that the peaks have been brought down rather than the valleys raised.

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  2. realitycheck says:

    “The worst form of inequality is to try to make unequal things equal.” – Aristotle

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  3. texan59 says:

    As I posted over on the OT, maybe we just need to ship them all off as was done in yesteryear. In all seriousness, I believe, as Rush has said, that we are chickifying the country and have been for a number of years. It will not bode well for our culture down the road. We are already seeing the average age of those marrying steadily rise. IMO, this is all part of it. 🙄

    http://www.offgridquest.com/news/mail-your-children

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  4. Stephen says:

    Stephen Kruiser at approximately 5:00—”Boys are basically chimps who’ve developed speech.”

    And girls are …

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    • nyetneetot says:

      “Boys are basically chimps who’ve developed speech.”

      I have two sons. It’s nice to have something that finally explains their bedroom when they were in their early teens.

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  5. Agree with the premise of this PJMedia series and it HAS been going on for decades. My DDH and son were/are both highly intelligent computer nerds. DDH grew up in a tough upstate NY town and learned the ways of the xxxxx. Once he stared down a group of about 5-6 of the xxxxx who surrounded him by not moving a muscle of his face. That unnerved them and they walked away.

    His other story was of the time when he became outraged that the school bully was holding up the flow of students walked down the stairs to their next classes. He rushed down to the guy and decked him! Bully got back up and snarled, “Parking lot. After school.” Hubby nodded dumbly. After school, he got the snot beat out of him.

    But guess what? First – student opinion was that DH had won! Apparently the bully had gotten a bloody nose somehow. Second – Bully became a friend and protector of DH. {N.b. My Dad had a similar story from 50 years earlier.] Guess he thought DH had won the fight, too! The final point to this story…DH said he learned later that BULLY had been ASSIGNED by school principal do direct student traffic at that spot. IOW, DH had been IN THE WRONG!

    I have no similar stories about my son b/c we lived in a small, peaceful town and I homeschooled him during the danger years – grades 5-10. I bet if he ever has gotten into a fight he used the weapon that both my Dad and DDH used most of the time – humor. They could make anybody laugh. Although retired, decorated US Marine Dad did carry a large wrench with him when on the road.

    My point here is that there are at least two ways to get rid of that super energy that men have. Building or breaking. Thinking or reacting. Joking or beating the other guy’s brains out. All have their place. Different men use and develop different tools. I, of course, love them ALL!

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  6. A good start would be to extend the protection we guarantee our little girls’ genitals to those of little boys as well. http://notyourstocut.com/2015/01/28/equal-protection/

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  7. czarowniczy says:

    I’m going to pass on this one as I just might say the wrong thong. I will say that I’m betting that there’s a branch of the progressive cultural movement out there desperately trying to develop a version of Febreze specifically for testosterone.

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    • smiley says:

      collective parenting : your children don’t belong to you..they belong to the community.
      even if you like your children, you can’t keep your children.

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      • czarowniczy says:

        Yes, the government does ‘own’ your kids. I could probably work up the denial to come to an uneasy peace with that were such child-forming luminaries as Janet Reno, the POtuS himself and the dynamic duo Holder/Holdren not chin-deep in the doctrinal formulation process.

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    • smiley says:

      my comment on collective parenting (your children don’t belong to you/they belong to the community) just got spammed !

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  8. peachteachr says:

    Even 20 years ago, you could watch the beginning of the war against men/boys. Almost every commercial showed dad to be flat-footed, a little dull intellectually, and certainly not on even footing with the cool moms and kids. These were just the little 30 second ads; the TV shows followed by reinforcing dad as a fool.

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    • lou says:

      there is no war on boys….the war has always been against girls and women, still is……why is it that women have to not only be the mothers, the wage earners, birth the babies and breast feed them, raise the children, and STILL not be good enough….its still not enough……men will be glad now though because women are dying of cancer and heart attacks pretty much right up there with the men….

      I grew up with 4 brothers….nobody had to tell them how to be men…..same for my husband…..

      truth is, our children especially our boys are coddled…..their behavior is atrocious in many instances….infact, its practically a bible verse now that “boys will be boys” whatever that means…but mostly it means that our society will allow them to swear like truck drivers, view adult porn, never play sports or do any hard physical work,and play video games night and day….

      American boys are just coddled endlessly….now the newest excuse is that there is a “war on boys”….BS…

      in an effort to give the best we can to our children, especially our sons, so many have just let them get away with being soft, lazy,disrespectul…..

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      • wintermaid says:

        Because traditional methods used to form boys’ character and shape them into morally upright men are no longer politically correct or even allowed.

        Boy Scouts, military academies, even just having a job on a farm, all of these things have been compromised by our culture. The “bad boy” reaction to this within culture is a swing to the other side of the pendulum, with video games, porn, cursing, etc. being presented as “masculine.”

        I was raised by feminists and I have five sons. I witnessed the war on boys growing up first hand in the 80’s and 90’s, and when I started having sons I finally recognized it for what it was and lamented that my sons had no real role models on popular culture.

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  9. Aslan's Girl says:

    According to progs, boys are supposed to be girls and girls are supposed to be boys nowadays. Boys have been under attack for a decade or two now (I have two nephews so I am a big defender of boys). And I’ll add that girls are under attack in a different way: they are not allowed to be “girly” anymore. “Princess” toys and pink toys are under attack because the Feminazis want girls to be boys (they attack Toys R Us especially). Traditional role-play for girls is a no-no: Feminazis attacked Megan Trainor’s “Dear Future Husband” song and they attacked “Bella” from “Twilight” because they are old-fashioned (I never thought I’d defend “Twilight” because I jumped the wrong conclusion that vampires=evil — I was MOST surprised when the storyline actually has a Biblical world-view & now I’m a “Twi-hard” lol).

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  10. rashomon says:

    We had a male neighbor when I was growing up in the mid-50s who insisted women were becoming men and men were becoming women. This movement has been creeping up for a long time.

    I was no judge at the time as I have only brothers and male cousins; i.e. lots of testosterone in my generation, but I saw it when I started volunteering in schools. The great principals and teachers allowed boys to be boys. But, the less wise — the majority of them — tried everything possible to control them, cutting out recess and gym privileges when they misbehaved, which was exactly the opposite of what boys need; i.e. more physical activity and rough-housing. Five laps around the gym, jumping jacks at the desk, whatever allows them to let off energy tends to accomplish more than sit with your head on your desk.

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    • rashomon says:

      More families with fathers would also help set positive role models for both boys and girls.

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    • stella says:

      Totally agree! That’s exactly what happened with my older grandson – teacher punished by making him stay in for recess. My daughter set her straight! Boys need to work off all of that energy.

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      • rashomon says:

        On a related subject, both sexes can be involved in bullying and teachers often see it more than parents do as kids have more opportunities when surrounded by dozens of their peers. This teacher should be commended instead of fired.

        https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/teacher-i-was-fired-for-publicly-shaming-bully-119289264107.html

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        • In 3rd or 4th grade I was hit by a boy in my class. When I got home and told my mother, she got down on her knees to my level and “put up her dukes.”
          “Put your fists up like this,” she urged me. “Now, swing at me! This is what you do to that boy should he EVER come near you again!”
          The pride and confidence she instilled in me ensured that I never was bullied again until in 10th grade in HS when I was totally taken by surprise by a girl! This time I called my tough boy friend and asked for his advice. Same advice. Same result. Some people like me are just slow learners!
          Kids, both boys and girls, MUST learn to stick up for themselves. What if Mom and Dad are hit by a truck? Teacher doesn’t see the bullying? No protective friends are around? Let’s bring back the concept of sissies!

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          • rashomon says:

            Nice job, IfO! I was oldest and only girl, so I just picked up controlling my male family members naturally. I later had to instruct my own city-bred kids to fend for themselves AND teach the younger ones on the block to do the same. It’s a jungle out there! Ya gotta be fierce!

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  11. tommylotto says:

    I have two boys (9 and 12) currently learning under Common Core. They have strong math skills and weak language skills — like most boys. They can blast through the basic math problems, because they know the math, but they are doing poorly in math overall, because most home work and test problems are now “word problems” (and poorly worded word problems). So, math — an historic boy strength — has been taken away from boys by changing math so that language skills — girl’s strength — is now necessary to do well in math. Boys were better at math. So, math had to change.

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    • rashomon says:

      Yes, I used to tutor my brothers friends when I was in eighth grade for a rather nice hourly rate as the PTB brought in New Math, which none of the teachers nor parents understood. I can’t do these CC word problems today; they make no sense. Our society will pay for this while the new generation of PTB get rich. My sympathies are with your boys, but I don’t think the girls do much better with CC.

      I would caution against categorizing boys has having poor language skills; my boys and my grandsons all read fluently by age four. They simply need a different method of teaching as not all children — including girls — learn the same way. Ask their language arts teachers to help. Or an outside tutor might be well worth the price as it only takes a short time to change this dynamic.

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      • stella says:

        Good advice! My daughter got tutors for both her boys at various times. The younger one had a reading tutor, which helped him immensely.

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        • MichiganCPA says:

          One of my daughters didn’t read until fourth grade. Her teacher realized that the district and federally mandated methods of teaching weren’t working. She taught her to sight read and by the end of the school year she was speed reading chapter books with complete comprehension. She could read a 70 page book in less than an hour and to this day, reads a paragraph at a time instead of sounding out words. She’ll be student teaching first grade in the fall. Her students, boys and girls, will be the luckiest first graders in the state.

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  12. TheLastDemocrat says:

    What I have commented elsewhere is relevant here: the Marxists perceive and unholy trinity, and they are determined to tear down this unholy trinity. This is the trinity in the cultural hegemony that sustains society.

    The Nukelar Family, Christianity (and, guilt-by-association, Judaism), and Capitalism.

    Nearly anything you hear coming from the “progressives” is an attempt to tear down one of these three.

    The nukelar family depends upon men being men and women being women.

    Also, one avenue for tearing down the nukelar family is to replace the parenting role with the government, in the form of public education. This requires a phalanx of public-education teachers that are on board.

    How to get all public teachers on board?

    The Golden Handcuffs. Serve your 30 years, without raising your head (so it does not get cut off), and receive another 30 years of “salary.” The closer you get to retirement, year by year, the more you are within reach of that retirement benefit, and the more likely you are to just shut up, or to lose your values.

    Unions.

    If there were an actual democratic party, not a front for Marxists, and someone said, “How can we tell you from the Marxists?” -the answer would be another question: with whom does your political alliance lie: students or teachers?

    Students themselves have no political force. They depend on a political party to advocate for them. A party dedicated to advocate for the little guy who otherwise has no voice. That is my idea of the democratic party. Teachers need a Labor Party to go jack with. Leave the democratic party to advocate for K-12 kids.

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  13. ShibaDad says:

    There aren’t more men in early childhood education is partly due to a fear of ANY accusation of sexual misconduct.

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    • Sandra says:

      Are you sure ? I think men just aren’t interested in being grade school teachers because, ironically, the job seems too feminine to them. Nursing used to have that kind of stigma, fortunately we’re seeing more male nurses.

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  14. Sandra says:

    What about the preponderance of junk food in kids’ diets, exposure to so much radiation (TV and computer monitors, cell phones and other wireless devices, etc), and exposure to chemicals like xenohormones ? That last one should not be underestimated. I remember seeing a show about xenoestrogen-exposed male frogs which produce eggs in their testes rather than sperm ! It’s pretty bizarre to blame women for ruining boys because you are then stating that men are either MIA or completely inffectual. I think our environment is changing kids, boys and girls, for the worse.

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    • rashomon says:

      I wouldn’t blame women teachers for ruining boys. I blame the schools of education for not teaching better practices; school boards for eliminating recess, gym and after school sports; and fatherless homes for not providing good examples of male strength/purpose without mayhem. In the animals preserves of Africa, the keepers had a huge problem with juvenile males causing havoc until they reintroduced bulls, which had been removed for some reason, back into the families.

      I’ve seen classrooms with 40-plus students under the complete control of a teacher who knows how to manage and engage them — enjoy them. So, class size doesn’t matter. I’ve also seen twenty students who have been on a bus from the crack of dawn and in the same classroom seat for six hours, only to get back on a bus for another ride back home. No physical activity all day, so they are antsy all day and cause trouble.

      If teaching were more rewarding because the principal had control of her school, could hire and fire at will, could control the programs and activities within her building, and was appropriately compensated for being that CEO, men would be more inclined to take such jobs in teaching and, perhaps, look to advance into fine principalships. The principal is key to a school’s success.

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    • stella says:

      Actually, there is evidence (study at Harvard Medical) that indicates that wireless devices may be a cause of autism spectrum problems, rather than vaccines (which is the popular target). I don’t know about the rest. Do you have any studies you can point to specifically? There is so much junk science out there that I hesitate to just accept a claim without some kind of evidence.

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      • michellc says:

        This is just my opinion but I believe much of the anti-vaccine has became part of the “all natural religion.” I see the same people who refuse to vaccinate their children refusing to vaccinate their animals, which in their animals they also refuse to give them antibiotics even if it will save the animal’s life because they have “an all natural farm and lifestyle.”

        I just recently ticked off one such woman who wanted to buy a goat, wanted it banded but didn’t want us to give it a CD&T shot. I told her we wouldn’t do it because of the risk of the goat getting tetanus, which is a horrible way to die. I told her we didn’t keep plain tetanus vaccines around but if she didn’t want it having the CD&T she could buy just the tetanus and we would give it that. She refused that as well. Then went on a rant about all natural and wanted to know if I’d pump my dogs and my kids full of chemicals. I told her as a matter of fact I would and had, didn’t want my kids catching diseases that could be prevented and didn’t want my dogs dying from parvo, distemper and certainly didn’t want them getting rabies and endangering us.
        She then went on to tell me that all natural is her religion and I should respect it. I told her that she could practice whatever religion she chose but I would not band a goat without a tetanus and be responsible for the goat dying a horrible death that could be prevented.
        So I learn something new every day as I didn’t know such a religion existed.

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        • michellc says:

          BTW when did we become a country of people who demand everything be respected? I get tired of people telling me I must respect (fill in the blank).

          When you allow a dog to get rabies, a cow to get blackleg, an animal to get tetanus, all fatal diseases that are preventable, just because you create a religion or hate all chemicals, I don’t have to respect that. You have the right to do as you please on your own property with your own property, but you don’t have the right to demand I participate.
          There is some stupid group who claim they’re the religion of Spaghetti Monsters, I guess they probably demand we respect that as well.

          And to get back on topic, I don’t respect and won’t respect trying to force boys to act like girls or girls to act like boys. Drugging boys and using invisible chains on little boys to make them fit some stupid idea of boys should be wusses is a form of child abuse. I would argue though our children, boys and girls are being forced to become adults and not allowed to be kids by the public school system and a large part of society.

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  15. Millwright says:

    I’ve long been of the opinion ‘progs’ – if they had their way – would require all male children to be castrated as a condition of being allowed to enter school. While this possibly stems from a school-teacher aunt that hated boys – forty years of her unguarded comments ‘en famiele’ lead to this opinion – I’ve also had some first-hand experience of a similar bias in ‘teachers’ lounges’ as well. Wife and I – having raised three boys plus a number of their male friends – often comment on the current ‘anti-male climate’ we encounter in the media and the current dearth of good male role models in the media and most sports. We cry at strident media stories critical or abusive of parents encouraging older male siblings to be nurturing and protective of their younger sisters as youngsters. Our kids were encouraged to be independent and exploratory. Like Scott’s grandmother, we shoved them out the door early to do what boys do, patched their wounds, admired their ‘discoveries/trophies’ and along the way hopefully socialized them. Mostly, they’ve all done well.

    Everyone on the panel offered cogent comments on the prevailing attitude practiced by licensed educators/administrators in our education system. I find myself in agreement with Mr. Whittle’s premise the ‘.system’ – as presently comprised – is biased against male students. They’re further burdened by often lacking male role models at home. Small wonder these kids are deemed ‘intractable/disturbed/disruptive’ by a female-dominated educational system. They’re developing personalities without a locus to emulate or focus upon.

    Ladies, males are not ‘maladjusted females’, as many would have us believe. Males act, respond, bond and interact differently. They are more physically active, and have shorter attention spans for anything not involving some form of physical activity. Males ‘relate’ – not by largely verbal consensus – but by physicaity and personality dominance; but it is worthwhile noting both methods achieve a ‘pecking order’ in the group.

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    • Sandra says:

      I wonder how many male doctors are diagnosing boys with ADD/ADHD and prescribing medication ? I suspect quite a few.

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  16. Sandra – parents, mainly mothers, demand it of their doctors. Doctors usually give in. This is also true of antibiotics, which were known to create dangerous bacterial mutations if over-used or mis-used many, many years ago, but mothers (I knew one personally) demanded antibiotics, EVEN if the diagnosis was a viral infection, against which antibiotics DO NOT WORK! sigh

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    • stella says:

      They demand it because the school tells the parents that their kid has a problem. It happened with one of my grandchildren, and the parents (one of them my child) gave in for a while. My DD was afraid to tell me, and her husband let it slip, because they didn’t drug him during the Christmas break.

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  17. michellc says:

    When you have girls and boys being raised by mainly women with mousy men who were raised to think boys had issues or should act like girls then you have what we have today.
    We took a loved one out to dinner last night and there was a baseball team there eating. They were well behaved but almost like little robots. Only one dad was there, a mousy little man who looked too whipped to do anything but eat his meal. These, what looked like 10 to 12 year old boys were wearing pink baseball shirts, white pants and socks with pink pin stripes. It wasn’t hard to figure out who picked out those uniforms.
    The boys weren’t chatting away about the game, like most boys would be doing, they weren’t picking at each other and only one of them even had any dirt on him. He was the only one I had any hope for because you could see it in his eyes that he was minding his manners but a boy was hiding inside him. He burped and I laughed until his mother told him if he did that again at the table he was going to go sit in the car and then informed him he was still in trouble for sliding into that little boy. He said, “I was just trying to avoid the tag and didn’t mean to knock him down.” She went into a long drawn out rant about how he could have hurt the boy and that he wasn’t going to act like a barbarian like those boys on the other teams and how she was never going to get the dirt out. Mousy man was sitting next to her and appeared to be the boy’s dad because he kept looking at him almost begging him to explain to mom. I was screaming on the inside come on dad tell her sliding and dirt is part of baseball, defend your son. He instead kept his head down, feeding his face, avoiding looking at his son or his wife(girlfriend). The boy said, “I’m sorry,” and dropped his head. They all finished eating in silence and as they left the boys all walked out in silence, no talking, no shoving, tripping, etc.

    Normally I would be praising such well behaved kids, but these boys had just played a ball game and there was no life in them. Anyone who has raised boys knows this is not normal. I wanted to round them all up and take them out to a ball field and tell them to strip that pink off and roughhouse and get dirty. Act like young boys and not like programmed robots.

    As I was speaking my thoughts, my DH said my boys would wonder why they always got told manners at the table. I told him it was because teaching them manners was my job, but expecting a group of boys to sit at a table without any burps and without any laughs at the burps was expecting robots like those kids. Everyone laughed and then we all talked about how sad it was that those boys looked so lifeless. My DH said he wanted to pick that dad up and knock some sense into him for allowing that boy to get a lecture for sliding and getting dirty in a baseball game. I, on the other hand wanted to slap all of those mothers who probably had their son drugged and for forcing them to wear pink uniforms.

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  18. MichiganCPA says:

    If Scott was a little older I would think that he grew up with me and my friends. We did everything he did and in addition we always had a Boy Scout knife with us to pluck the BB’s out of our skin after a game of war. Surprisingly we survived and none of us are serial killers or arsonists.

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  19. MichiganCPA says:

    Our grade school had only one male teacher. The kids and parents loved him. The entire school respected him and his room was like a military academy. Field trips with him present ran like clockwork. You knew when he was in the hallway or on the playground even if you didn’t see him. He was amazing not for that but for the fact that all of the kids loved him too.

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  20. wondering999 says:

    When I grew up, our neighborhood was full of kids, and we were fairly “free range”. However, there were fewer cars in that time, and we were playing in woods where cars didn’t go. Bicycling, skating, playing and walking in general where there is traffic, is dangerous. Even now, I prefer to walk in areas that aren’t congested with cars, traffic, and exhaust stink.

    Someone put together a presentation showing car traffic on a nearby interstate that had 1/3 the level of its current traffic during the 1970s. So along with everything else, I’d add that automobile culture means that kids (who can’t drive, and have to be driven to nearly any social activity) don’t get nearly enough exercise on a daily basis. (Most adults have the same problem, and it’s a factor in obesity and depression).

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  21. wondering999 says:

    A friend recently recommended a book called A Failure of Nerve, Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix which has some interesting observations about leading and leadership in general (families, corporations, countries, social organizations). The book was written by the late Edwin H. Friedman, an East Coast rabbi who had some theories that different from the usual. I’m enjoying the book and recommend it — and I think Friedman sheds some light on the problems of boys/men (or just leaders in general).
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edwin_Friedman

    “Friedman illustrates good “self-differentiated” leadership to that present in the great Renaissance explorers, where leaders had:

    the capacity to separate oneself from surrounding emotional processes
    the capacity to obtain clarity about one’s principles and vision
    the willingness to be exposed and be vulnerable
    the persistence to face inertial resistance
    the self-regulation of emotions in the face of reactive sabotage.

    “Two concepts are critical in Friedman’s model: self-knowledge and self-control. Friedman attacks what he calls the failure of nerve in leaders who are “highly anxious risk-avoiders,” more concerned with good feelings than with progress–one whose life revolves around the axis of consensus. By self-differentiation, the leader maintains his/her integrity (a non-anxious self as opposed to an anxious non-self) and thus promotes “the integrity or prevents the dis-integr-ation of the system he or she is leading.”

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  22. wondering999 says:

    More Friedman:

    In other places, Friedman argues that the well-differentiated leader:
    “…is not an autocrat who tells others what to do or orders them around, although any leader who defines himself or herself clearly may be perceived that way by those who are not taking responsibility for their own emotional being and destiny… is someone who has clarity about his or her own life goals, and, therefore, someone who is less likely to become lost in the anxious emotional processes swirling about…. is someone who can separate while still remaining connected, and therefore can maintain a modifying, non-anxious, and sometimes challenging presence… is someone who can manage his or her own reactivity to the automatic reactivity of others, and therefore be able to take stands at the risk of displeasing.”

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